When you fall in love....

Have you ever felt when you fell in love, you didnt get turned on by any other person? women just completely stop "playin the field" i supose. what im trying to say is you realized you're in love, truly in love, if your libido goes 'dead' to any other man trying to seduce you. but you feel different around one guy.... is that true love?

the reason why im asking is i just saw the "you dont mess with the zohan" and he was known to sleep with all these women when one day it "didnt work" and he complained about it and the lady said "Well that means you've found your one, you're in love!"

is it the same with girls too?

 

ehh, don't raise your expectations too high because of an adam sandler movie. we're all only human. that being said, i do think that true love changes the way we look at others dramatically... although there are millions of attractive people in the world, my lover is the only person who i see as truly perfect. sex and love aren't always directly connected, though... and some of the most happily in love couples are in sexually open relationships...

 

i still get turned on by people, i just have a higher bar for "worth it."

 

for some people, thats how it works
for others, it isnt

i still find people attractive, despit being madly in love and totally happy with my guy (and were monogamous). hell, ive even gotten a crush on someone else since dating my guy. it passes. how you react to others depends on you, your SO, and the dynamics of your relationship

 

I'm still attracted to other people but its purely physical and not emotional

but before i started dating my boyfriend person i was kinda questioning the validity of my heterosexualness but now that i have a deep relationship with a man i'd say i'm more attracted to men then i was before

if that makes any sense

 

That's how it is for me. I'm so emotionally and physically attracted to my partner that there's no attraction left for anyone else.

 

typically that's how i am as well, except, there have been a few times in the last 20 years where i've found myself physcially attracted to another man ... i took it to mean if i was single i would be interested in him, but since i wasn't single it was not an option. some women get confused by this.

 

So when you start getting turned on again by others, would that mean your falling out of love?

 

ha!

 

It´s a love seed, but its real, it is there....

 

I think every person and every relationship or connection is unique. Even being in love is different, depending on who you're with. I've been in love a few times and it's felt different every time, because the energy with each one was completely different. I used to wonder if it was possible for me to feel "in love" with more than one person at the same time. And then I experienced it, so I got my answer. I don't think there's ultimately any such things as a perfect person, only those that resonate with us very closely so it can feel "perfect", but that's a dangerous attitude or expectation to hold... at some point we're bound to get disappointed. Right now I've been with my partner about 10 years and we have a very close, I'd say soul-mate type bond... and we're polyamorous, we just don't believe that love can be controlled or limited to just one person. Now whether or not you express that love sexually or not is another matter completely... but that's more social norms and standards than the feeling that's truly there. Some of us just don't follow social norms. To each his own.

 

My love seed doesnt work anymore.

 

and my field is barren.

 

personally, i'd be far more upset about dave falling in love with someone else than just fucking them.

 

lol are you 2 husband/wife? cause you act like it hahahaha

 

yeah.

 

I might get physically attracted to someone else, but not interested.
if that makes any sense...

 

Damn, How did you guess. We try to keep that in the closet so we can pick up chicks.

 

I really dont seem to notice other people in that way anymore. It's like I have lost the ability to notice if people are cute or not, so there's no one else to be attracted to. Except for girls, I always notice pretty girls, but I'm not gonna go flirt with them or try to sleep with them. It's more of an admiration kinda thing.
It was funny because when my friend Ana was here, every two steps she was like did you see that guy? OMG, so fucking hot! And I was always like what guy? I dont know, is he hot? But she has always been like that and it's EXTREMELY rare when I say something like that. It's usually something else that makes me attracted to people, and its usally a combination of being free, funny, kind and smart (actually it's a lot of things) and that would require me talking to guys to notice those kind of things and I dont.
Of course there are some guys I still talk to,my friends, John's friends, but I dont really notice things like that anymore. My attraction to people works like a magnet and Im already attached to one person, so Im indifferent to everyone else.

 

How long have you been with your fella?