my boyfriend really likes it and i don't have a problem with it.. we've done it a couple times before, but last time he hardly even penetrated [with lube] and it hurt so bad it made me want to cry. any advice??
umm i really dont know if there is a solution to this, besides being more relaxed next time and practice makes perfect.
fuck that if it hurts u dont do it does he let u put it in his butt no sex is about u and he needs to learn that now
The position you use also helps. Although most people tend to go for the traditional Doggy position when they try Anal, this is not, in fact, the easiest, especially for the novice. The best to go for is the Spoons position. This is where both partners lie on their sides, with the penetrator entering from behind, allowing the penetrated partner to curl up into a comfortable position, either tucking both legs up, or just the one, as in the First Aiding Recovery Position. Theis position allows the muscles to relax that would otherwise remain tensed if using the Doggy position. Also, once penetrated with the Spoons position, the penetrator can move on to hooking his leg over the partner, potentially allowing to move on to Doggy position if desired, although the control still remains with the penetratee. It is also worthy of note that anyone who has had to undergo any kind of anal examination by a doctor will already know that the doctor has the patient lie on their side in what would be the sexual Spoons position, rather than on all fours with their behind in the air in the Doggy position. The reason is obvious - it allows for easier access.
I remember a black girl I was with a couple of years ago wanting to try this.she was kneeling on the bed and I was standing behind her. I entered her slowly and, I hoped, gently and then she let out this awful worrying kind of yelp / whimper. I thought I d hurt her (it was pretty well her first time , she said) so I kind of moved backwards to withdraw , like the gentleman I am, and then suddenly she was pushing back onto my cock and after that there was no looking back. She said it had hurt like hell but only momentarily and after that it felt great. But I m sure relaxation plays a very big part in enjoying it.
start with one finger and work your way up to the real penis gradually. in time. also, fingering is often a must in the beginning of each time one does anal sex.
I enjoy fingering and rimming (if it's really clean, that is). You can enjoy those without necessarily enjoying full on penetration.
Try lots of foreplay. Licking her asshole for a while getting it nice and wet. Insert a finger or two play with her ass until she is relaxed. Finger her pussy and ass at the same time. Make sure she is totally into it and turned on and relaxed before you shove your cock into her butt hole.
I agree fully with this. I just can't do full on penetration...I'd like to for my bf, but it hurts and he can tell I'm in a lot of pain, so he won't do it. I'm sure he would if I asked him to, but I don't think I will.
