i been with this girl for over 2 months. shes 18. she has a baby. im not the father. baby is 6 months. me and this girl have a pretty awsum relationship. i like her a lot, but i just dont know about the baby. its seriosly holding me back. i dont want a baby that isnt mine. frikin frik. but i like this girl too much. but i dont want a baby. what the frik should i do. just leave her, move on. will i find somone like this again shes my first girlfriend too. but only cause id never found anyone else i ever really liked.
Go with your heart. What does it tell you to do ? If you really love this girl you will accept her baby and all. I don't know how old you are but if you feel you want to hook up with her in a serious permanent relationship then in time you will grow to love the child. It is part of her. And if you love her enough you will find a way to make it work. Peace
At 19, you are much too young to get married, and the fact that she has a baby makes it even more difficult. And she is your first girlfriend, so you are more enamored than in love. Doing this will stunt your future life and prevent you from fulfilling your potential in life. Leave the relationship now. There is only about a 10% chance that it will not end in divorce.
shit ay. both sides of the spectrum... hmmm maybe go with it for a bit see how things go. enjoy the sex and wait and see what other girls come along perhaps
I would explore your options you are not committed to this girl or the baby.....I understand you like her a lot....but I would be dating a lot of different women.....the biggest problem with guys is that they don't commit to relationships b/c they are afraid of being committed to the wrong girl, or when guys commit themselves to a relationship and then its suddenly "oh this isn't working out for me" when they realize it is the wrong girl, or there could be something better.....when dating you have to make it clear that you are dating and if n when you make that connection with someone you progress it further....women are instilled with the ideas or marriage and security(from the opposite sex) from the moment they are born; men have the seed and leave mentality, while it takes women for it to actually work but that is the reason men have penis' b/c it has been made our duty as homosapiens to increase our species in numbers.....anyways apply that to society today as it has evolved, women have that goal of marriage and stick to it when that decision is made, as for men; society a.k.a religion (why the world is so corrupt, people do stupid fucking shit b/c of religion, however it helped create the society most of us know today but thats another topic) had told us that we are to settle down with a woman and get married, and you sin if you get divorced, or infidelity, or whatever happens, but the whole point is guys are afraid of making the wrong choice. I believe in respecting and genuinely caring about the women in my life because thats the way my parents raised me So do yourself the flavor and her and explore your options, or if you really feel (at18) that you could have a committed relationship with this girl "and the baby" then follow your heart, just don't be a cheese-dick and decide to leave 6 months from now b/c you didn't think things thru...the biggest questions your gonna ask yourself how do I know it will last, or is she someone I can be with; EXACTLY YOUR 18...I feel that if you believe theres tru love out there you will know when you have found it...as you can already see she is not with the father of the child b/c he pulled the seed and leave trick, cause it wasnt for him... all in all be responsible and take responsibility for your actions...hope you understand all that mumbo jumbo
hmmm thats good advice. thanks a shit load. what do you think about this but. cause it pissed me off. on the weekend we went to the beach and stayed with her best friend, and her best friends boyfriend. and we all drank alot. and anyway cause we got wet in the rain, the two girls had a shower together. thats sorta ok whatever, the other guy didnt mind. but my girl is or 'was' bi. and i said somthing, like why wouldnt you rather have a shower with me.. anyway blah blah then she said she'd never get with her or whatever and then she said somthing like This other girl would be the only exception. she said her name, lets just say T. she said T would be the only exception. so i got really pissed and we fought for ages, and all of them there even her best friend and her best friends boyfriends mum was on my side. cheating is cheating, and when you drink you say things you really do mean. not the other way around. cause well this T girl is the girl she turned bi for, and shes told me before she loves her. and she even wanted me to have a threesome with the two of them back when we first got together, and im like no. its everyguys dream, but not with somone you really do care about. cheating is cheating. but anyway this T girl has gone overseas, bit is coming back in a few weeks for a visit. but yeah what do you think. fuck this bticch off.
i used to think just like you. i always told myself "fuck that, i dont want to be around a kid thats not mine". i know have a kid. and damn, every chick i come across has a kid also. i think you should get past the kid part since you like this girl alot. dont be all thinkin bout marriage and shit, that will come LATER on. But, GO FOR IT. sound like yall would be a good couple
