Living ideas for single parent family in tough situation....

Hi,

I'm new to the site. I am a single divorced mom with 2.5 year old twins and am expecting three more in Feb(yes multiples run in the family). We've been abandoned by the dad who is out of the country and most likely never leaving there... and I got fired about a month ago from my 4th job this year due to missing a few days due to sick children(doc notes didn't help my case -- zero tolerance). I'm just about no good for work now with this high risk pregnancy... my twins were born micro-preemies and I will not allow stress and overwork to damage these new little ones.

I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas for us. We have to be out of this apartment by the 31st because I'll have no money to pay the rent next month. My parents don't live far, but my mother told me today that I am not her child since I left home 9 years ago and that I should adopt my babies out to someone who has it together.

While I am in a crappy situation, I admit. I'm not what she accuses me of being. I could try to defend myself all day... but I am educated and speak 3 different languages, am a great cook, very capable and I love my children and would do anything for them etc. I know I am a decent person(as ALL people are IMO!) regardless of what my family says.

So, there is no assistance out there for us with getting a place to live -- we have food stamps thank God so we don't worry about food. There *might* be a homeless shelter that could take us in for a short time.... other than that I am seriously considering finding an abandoned shack or building a fort in the middle of nowhere... I am not going to throw a pity party for myself ... I will make it through this one way or the other -- even if I have to give birth alone out in the woods somewhere... my babies are going to have their mother and we are all going to clasp hands and make it through this trial and come out good people in the end.

All this said *any* suggestions would be helpful! thanks

 

Maybe a church would help?

 

I hate to sound negative but hippie communes usually don’t like children. And most won’t accept pregnant mothers.

I'm not saying I agree with that, I have kids myself, I’m just saying just the way it is.

You might find some desperate old hippy living in the middle of nowhere that hasn’t had a vigina in years that will tell you “come live with me”.
but do you really want to take you and your kids out to the middle of nowhere and live in a shack with an old deprived hippy?

There are a few family geared communities but they are few and usually just word of mouth.

I don’t think you will find much good posting on the Internet hippy commune section.

I agree with seeker maybe a church could help out.

Or maybe you could talk to a social worker and see if there is any kind of family emergency assistance around where you live.

 

I don't envy your position. You might try moving to a smaller town. Maybe they have factory work you could do overnight. Hire one of the neighbor kids to sleep overnight to watch the kids.

 

In Arvada, Colorado there is a place called Shannon's Hope. It can be found online at shannonshope.org. The founder is an amazing woman named Leslie. It is a maternity home for pregnant women AND children. You don't find too many of those. It is a Christian home, but it is not a judgemental place. You get a room that you share with your children in a very large house and you share meals with the other women and have access to a wonderful enviornmnent. If you can get there or call there, talk to Leslie. She is an amazing person. If you can't get there but want to come, call Leslie. She is very resourceful. It's kind of like a commune for mommies and children. I think she allows moms to stay as long as they desire as long as the house rules are followed. If you go there, drop me a line and I'll come say hi and bring you some baby stuff.

No matter what happens, find a good place to land where you and your children can be safe for awhile. I'd offer my home but I'm unemployed and am not sure where I'll end up if things don't change soon.

Good luck to you.

http://shannonshope.org/GoodNews/default.asp?x=1&DID=1458

 

Another idea might be to browse craigslist and local papers, look for an elderly couple who need some general assistance in light housework / cooking, etc. Perhaps check with the local VA as I'm sure theres a vet or two who could use similar assistance.??

Just a thought.

 

Hi...I'm new here too and I am in sort of a similar situation, though I have just ONE 2.5 year old! We need to find another place to live...right now we are in a moldy basement apartment, sharing a tiny bedroom. We are pretty isolated as I don't have friends or family in the area, and spending money on gas to get to the nearest "real" town is killing me financially. Anyway, I was just checking out a website called CoAbode.com...it's this service that is supposed to help "match" and connect single moms with one another in order to share housing & living expenses. I only just discovered the site and am in the process of registering (it's free to register and a free service, I believe). You might want to check it out? I will repost when I get more information. And the Shannon's Hope place sounds wonderful, too, I would look into that as well if I were you.

Best of luck and Blessings to you and your babies.

Rebecca

 

go to black bear commune in cali...if you can make it...just google black bear ranch, they have 3 babies that live there, and everyone takes care of the babies including diapers and etc.

 

My heart goes out to you. As a mother of six I can imagine what you are going through. I have twins myself. I hope you have found somewhere safe to be during your pregnancy with your babies.
Blessings, Love and Light,
hippy@heart

 

Have you tried newborns in need? It's a national organization with chapters just about everywhere. They are good people, and if they can't help with housing directly, they know lots of good people who can help.

http://www.newbornsinneed.com/

Good luck to you, stay strong.

 

Did you ever find a place to go? I hope so.
Blessing,
hippy@heart