Need some serious advice please!!!! Idk what to do here

You said you were both in love... but did say if you were "together" or not?

If you guys were in a mutual relationship, then dump that bitch to the bricks. If not, she didn't cheat on you.

 

this whole thread and all the replies (not to disenfranchise anyone here) = not worth your time (the situation, not the thread)

all of this stress you suddenly have to deal with over a girl who you thought you "loved"

nuh uh. you're 16. live life.

all this is going to do is fill you with mistrust, angst, and lead to nothing healthy in the future

chances are (considering i don't know the full details) if you're not even together (bf/gf) (for one thing) and this is a big deal, it's going to remain a big deal, always, especially if you try to keep the thing going and decide to trust her again

although it pains me to do so, i'm going to quote john mccain (who is of course quoting someone else everytime he says it, but i can't remember who, that, or it's just a common euphamism)

the sun is always brightest before it's totally black

that's the outlook you'll gravitate towards

that's not life, especially at 16, there are bigger things to worry about, there are more important things to stress over

there, that's my serious answer

oh, and another thing, you can forgive her for what she did, but you should also move on from her

 

If she already knew that you didn't like the guy and she went and slept with him anyways...


she cant really say that she didnt mean to hurt you.


sounds like she just disregarded your emotions completely.


I would seriously consider her actions before deciding whether to forgive her or not.

 

She didnt tell me till i heard it from 2 of my friends and confronted her about it. And yea thats what im concidering but it kinda makes me feel like its a real dick move but o well..

 

Don't be a vagina Mcginestein. talk to her and see whats up. get HER facts straight then you can make your best decision on what to do with the relationship. good luck brah

 

forgive her NO?

but i would date here till someone new comes along for you i mean
but it is cute that you love that cow at only 16.

 

I didnt read the whole thread, so sorry if someone else said this too.

I would definitely forgive her, but just because you forgive her doesnt mean that you need to be with her.
I think nobody can tell you what you need to do, of course you can look for advice, but only you, in your heart can know if you can be with her again. Everybody makes mistakes and there are some things that are hard to let go, because they hurt you so much, but if you're able to really let go of it, it can bring you even closer to the person you love.
Trust your own voice.

 

no i probably wouldnt... sorry i know its not what u wanted to here but if shes did it once whats stopping her from doing it again... im sure she is sorry, but that doesnt mean she wont do it again. maybe she wont but, itll just hurt u even more is she does. o yah and kick the guys ass thatll make u feel better.

 

I say fuck her man you're in fucking high school a building flooded w/ females i say go swimming...i had a 3 yr realtionship w/ this chick in hs and some shit like that happen'd I stay'd with her and it didn't work out to well usually if they do it once they do it again and again cause they see you'll just take em back atleast let her hurt for a wk or to before you take her back

 

same kinda feelins im havin here...

My girlfriend went over to her friends house, and her friend got some dude to get them alcohol. This dude is friends with my girlfriends friend and my g/f has only seen him 2 times total. Well they get drunk and my g/f goes and passes out on her friends bed(Because her friend and this dude were starting to do things) in the early morning she feels a backrub, then NOTHING.... Then she flashes to where she's having sex with this dude, one point she thinks it's me(But thinks something is wrong), although at another time during the sex she remembers knownig it wasnt me but she was still doing it(For some reason). Then after he tells her her lets go to my place and wake and bake, then i'll take you home. She goes there they smoke and then he wants to have sex with her again, she says no, but gives him a blowjob(Because she was still drunk, high, confused, scared, etc... and didn't want him to actually rape her if she didnt.(She doesn't know why she did it still though)) then the next day she goes with her family to a waterpark and they stay there that night and she flat out tells me everything(the story above is a short cut version but it gives the idea). She feels really bad and got down on her knees crying for me to forgive her. I don't know if I should trust her or not? she's already got STD and pregnancy testing done which is negative for everything which is good. but should I trust her and still stay with her, we are together pretty much all the time and she is not the kind of girl you would expect to do this kind of thing. Was that being taken advantage of? Was that really not her fault? I just don't know... Does it seem like she is lying? She even called the cops for sexual assult, because she feels like it was horrible for him to have done what he did when she was so drunk.

Edit: so far i've told her if it ever happeneds again we are done no matter what. And I will hold true to this. Is that fair?

 

Let her gooooooooooooooooooooooooo if the cheat let em go I can see if this is a girl you've dated for years and are deeply in love w/ but if not fuck it move on i wish i hadn't dated in hs and the beginning of college would've been very stress free lol

 

thats definetly fair thats whats prolly gonna happen with me n my girl but as of now im just staying mad.. I just got back from the mall with her and it was great but i made sure she knew i was still pissed

 

Ok im drawn between just letting it go forgiving both her and him and going on with my life or putting a roll of quarter in my hand and banging the mother fucker square in the jaw? But i also think this could result in revenge taken by him during school and his parents possibly suing me or me going away to jail, Dont get me wrong im not afraid of no one and definetly not afraid to fight him but i just dont want it to come back and bite me you know...

I also think that i am going to eventually forgive her and keep messing with her and seeing where things go or just entill i meet another girl i really like. I meen shit happens and she promised it will never happen again i just need to get my trust back for her but if it happens again then i am definetly done for ever. Do yall think im a dumbass or a bitch for doing this?


Oh and by the way she said he was the worst shes ever had and was lame in the sack lol and i am by far the best shes ever had so that makes me feel good! lol

 

Dolly ^5 LOL!!! hey, she is only sorry you found out.....

 

Don't be a pussy.

He is what you should do:

Break into her house, kidnap the bitch, stick her in your trunk and drive down to Texas. Once you get to Texas, find the biggest church around. Take the bitch into the church and nail her to the giant cross that's bound to be in it. Stay there and force her to deep throat you until the police come. Give yourself up willingly, and ask for the death penalty. Once on death row, you'll be a complete badass. No more bitches to bother you, none of that shit. Ask for "pussy" as your last meal. A big ol' pile of pussy. Go out like a man. None of that lethal injection shit. Fucken shotgun to the temple. Totally worth it.

 

:cheers2:

 

I think you should consider forgiving her, however it would be hard to as it was withsomeone you have issues with.
However, do NOT let her take advantage of your love.

 

like i said earlier kick his ass... but just do what u think is necessary. it may not be worth the possible repercussions to beat him up, or it may be. u have to decide if this is serious enough. what ever hope u make the right choice in the end

 

Hey, sorry to read that man...to both of the guys who had problems with cheating girls, in my opinion i think it would be better to just move on. It might be hard, especially if you love them, but someone who really cared about you wouldn't cheat on you and being drunk or high isn't an excuse. Just like someone else said, if she knew that you didn't like this guy too, thats just flat out not caring about your feelings. Maybe she just didnt think about it? But thats the point. You're 16 years old and i can say that by the time you're in college, you would be kicking yourself for sticking with a girl who can't even think about your feelings, even when she says she loves you. You'll look back and thank yourself. Right now you probably have a lot of emotions kick her to the curb and find a new girl that will respect you...good luck

 

Sounds like a fucked up whore.

Get over it, she obviosly don't love you, tell her that if she ever calls you again you'll trow a brick in her teeth.


Belive me, you dont want anything todo with a bish like that.