So I might have phimosis..and..

the thing is, when my dick is erected, I can't retract the foreskin. I went to different doctors, and finally last February, they recommended me circumcision as the only solution. Been the dumbass I was, I accepted it and supposed to get it this August. I'm against circumcision, but the problem is that this is a medical issue. I hate this so much..I really don't want to get circumcised but if it's the only choice then I guess I have to go for it. Some posters here said they got circumcised at a late age and it hurt like hell afterwards. I don't want that. As a solution, I heard there is a certain cream that you can put on your penis. They also recommend me frenuloplasty or whatever it's called with something else but they told me after the surgery, the problem could come back. Fuck..why do I have this problem? Why me..i hate this so much..

If the doctors call and tell me to come and get circumcised I'll say no, I don't want to..I prefer to have my foreskin still here and hopefully one day, have this fuck%#^#$^# problem finished. I have many problems in my life, and not to mention this one too. Not only I have to deal with other stuff, I have this, I can't even have quality sex. I'm a virgin but I don't know how ugly it would feel having sex with this. I'm so angry..I'm so stressed..fuck been circumcised...fuk that, I don't want it. I'm Greek, I'm from europe, not supposed to get cut. Anyway, any suggestions would be appreciated everyone.

 

i feel sorry for you dude.
i dont have any suggestions sorry, but keep your head up.
things will get better.
i prefer uncut guys, but for health reasons i think circumcision is good.
good luck ^_^

 

I just went off here and Googled phimosis treatment and there are alternatives. The common treatment mentioned was topical steroidal medications. The other is stretching. You said you went to several doctors. Did any discuss these alternatives with you?

If you really don't want to get circumcised then the doctor should work with you on alternatives. It is your body they are working on and it is ultimately your decision as to what medical treatment you receive.

 

No, they haven't told me about that cream, or whatever it is, thing is I know it's not surgical. What should I do now? I'm wondering, should I go see another doctor? Call up the doctor there and tell him to switch the operation from circumcision to frenuplasty(cuz he suggested that too).

 

Thanks for your message moonshine memi

 

I highly recommend trying the steroid creme and stretching techniques, many U.S. doctors see a foreskin as only a problem since they have never had one, I would do some online research, go to another doctor and say you want the steroid creme and DO the stretching exercises, and then get into the habit of retracting the foreskin completely when you urinate to keep it stretched. and I would also argue over paying the first doctor's bills or file a complaint if he did not offer the least invasive treatment which is required by the hippocratic oath


frenuplasty removes the frenulum, that would only work if your frenulum is too short.

please put off the circumcision, use the stretching techniques online, essentially pull the skin down as far as you can without pain and hold it there, do that several times a day as well as when you urinate

I would do almost anything to have mine back

 

Thanks for your post and I definitely agree to what you said. However, I can't say for sure I have phimosis, the doctors told me if I remember that I have a tight and short frenulum and a tight foreskin, I think? Anyways, point is I don't want to get circumcised. Thanks so much mate!

 

cloud7 is correct in every respect. The best steroidal cream to use is one that contains betamethasone.

I have had exactly the same problems as yourself and for years was ashamed to get it sorted out. When I was about 14 I had the skin surgically stretched because it wouldn't pull back at all. After a few months I could pull it back fully while flaccid, this enabled proper hygiene and ended the infection problems. The problem was still the scarred band of the elastic tissue that was still too tight. I managed to slacken that through the stretching techniques mentioned above.

I found out about the cream only a few years back and began applying it daily and stretching also. Eventually I have now got to a stage where the skin is loose enough, not perfect and still longer than it perhaps should be but now it's comfortable and ok.

It took me until I was 21 to lose my virginity because of the complex I had with my non retractable foreskin. I basically didn't have the confidence with letting a woman near it. Several relationships and a marriage later and I can truly say that I've never met even one woman that had a problem with it. If I had done then I'd have told her that her tits weren't big enough and dumped her! (basically: "when you you're perfect then criticise me") My foreskin still does not retract fully even when my penis is fully erect but it makes no difference whatsoever. The important thing is that the sensation is still there and it works perfectly. Sex is enjoyable and I would never have a circumcision done. I'd advise you not to either.

Keep your chin up

Best regards

The Unnamed

p.s. Please ignore women on here that prefer circumcision. With soap and water a natural uncut penis is as clean as a mutilated one and will usually always smell cleaner than a vagina!

 

I hope everything works out in your favor. I wouldn't want to do something like that if I didn't have to. Hope you get the advice that you need.

 

Unnamed - your advice is good, and I hope Formertechno follows it. There is nothing better than past experience to show the way. You also had a frenulum that was too short, but stretching helped the problem a lot. How far back does the foreskin go when you are fully erect?

 

Where can I get that cream? How is that cream called? The one that contains betamesthasone. It's nice seen that I'm not alone on this issue. However, you had your surgery at 14. I'm 17, almost 18 and starting college. I wanna fix this up as soon as possible! Trust me, I'm not for circumcision either.

 

Go to the local doctor and ask, be very careful ordering any cream to put on your dick when it's from the web.

 

I'm sure it's prescription only, you could try calling up the office you went to and say you wanted to try the steroid creme route and needed a prescription to try to void another visit, but maybe go in again or go to another doctor (maybe go to a urologist) don't be embarrassed to tell them you don't want cut, and hold out for the cream

If the first doctor has any ethics he should not charge you again because he failed to offer the least invasive effective treatment first by failing to mention the cream

 

Actually the doctor that I went to was a urologist, or so he said. He honestly didn't seem so good in his work. I didn't feel like talking to a urologist. One thing's for sure, I don't want to get circumcised. If the cream thing doesn't work, I have to go with the frenuloplasty and some other procedure that he said. I was thinking going to another doctor though.

 

Frenuloplasty does not remove the frenulum - it only makes cuts paralleling the inverted v on the underside of the glans in order to lengthen the frenulum. It is an operation that can be performed as an outpatient, with followup visits to check on the healing. Don't frighten the lad.

 

he was talking about circumcision before which is far more damaging, and from the description It's hard to say whether it's phimosis or a short frenulum, It would seem to me to be obvious which it is, but in either case stretching exercises are the lest invasive, effective cure

it's not always necessary to jump to the scalpal

 

I have been talking with Formertechno for a long time about his problem, and I am only recommending circumcision as a last resort, if recommended by his urologist, who has examined his penis and is experienced in diagnosing problems like this. There is even a very new procedure called a prepusoplasty (sp) which cuts through the foreskin in two places and reattaches it, so that the foreskin remains but is shorter and will retract easily. But it appears from my discussions with him that the problem is not an overly tight foreskin, but a very short frenulum which prevents retraction. So the answer, if stretching will not solve the problem, is a frenuloplasty or if that is not successful, a circumcision if he wants a normal sex life later on.

 

you give a half decent post and then start on that, a "normal" sex life cannot be had circumcised, a normal for a circumcised person is not the same as a "normal" for an intact person. he has already experienced the intact and then experiencing the cut experience would be a great loss.

if he needs surgery then fine, but he would be best advised to keep as much as he can

 

You continue to repeat an untruth, that a normal sex life for a circumcised person is not the same as a normal sex life for an intact person. You set yourself up as an expert because you were circumcised at birth, and now have begun a process of foreskin restoration.

Several points -
1. The recent Africa study of many thousands of sexually experienced men who were uncut and then circumcised, and asked two years later about their level of sexual satisfaction. They expressed no difference in their sexual satisfaction cut or uncut.
2. Many uncut guys have the problem which Formertechno has, either a too tight foreskin or a too short frenulum, which prevents retraction. Some enure for life with this condition, and suffer the reduced sexual satisfaction and risk of infection that can result. Others can retract the foreskin, but barely over the glans, so a little pouch forms on the top side of the erect penis just behind the glans made up of the retracted foreskin.
The foreskin does not roll entirely down the shaft, allowing the underside of the foreskin to become shaft skin. This also reduces sexual satisfaction, if what the Nocircers say is true - that the underside of the foreskin is especially sensitive, and we cut guys have had it cut off, and have lost this sensation.
3. But I haven't had it cut off, or at least much of it. My remaining foreskin (which I can roll over the glans entirely when soft and two thirds of the way up the glans when erect) sits behind the glans when my penis is not in action.

So stop glamorizing what you lost and are trying to get back.

 

I know because I have experienced both, and the foreskin (even a restored one adds greatly to sex, it adds glding sensation and moistens the glans, sex has never been as good for me as it is right now

surverys were done face to face, If I remember right the researchers were surprised at how low the initial reported rate was

the vast majority do not, just like some cut guys have problems with short remainder of frenulums and insufficient shaft skin, removing a foreskin for a risk of problems with the same risk of creating new ones does not make sense, many cut guys endure the problems for life as well, they never know it's not right. In the vast majority of people the foreskin does fully retract, you are picking small rare problems and acting as if it's the norm.

my skin sat behind the glans before restoring as well, I am not glamorizing, I am talking from my experience with restoration as well as what I've read. believe me if this wasn't improving the functionality a lot I would have given up a long time a go, it is a lot of work, and it's well worth it. We were designed witht he parts we have to interact with the opposite sex in a certain fashion, changing the design of each part destroys the intricate design nature has given us. nature meant to make sex as enjoyable as possible to promote our one goal in life, to reproduce