problems with my 17yr old girlfriend... almost maturity stuff

i just turned 19, and my girlfiend is 17... i noticed she acts almost the same way my ex did when she was 17... that she knows the world, and thinks she has this amazingly clear understanding of how the world works.

i admit, i used to think that way too until i got fluid in both my inner ears and that realy f'd me up and now the world is a mystery to me and i no longer feel that invincibility...

annother thing is that shes dead set on getting married in a short ammount of time, im not ready for that until after college...

i guess im asking, will this behavior fade and eventualy she will not think shes always right and do no wrong. she doesnt even say sorry for anything, and she said she never regrets anything.

do you guys think this behavior will fade, or is it a loosing battle.

Thanks

 

I calmed down as I got older. I was fairly....determined....when I was 17 to get what I want.....I'm 20 now, so I've chilled out, I know that it takes time to get things, I also know that I'm not always right (as much as it kills me).

However I have always wanted to get married young...and I still do.

Good luck.

 

No man dont get married that young, you WILL ruin your life, or the life you would have had atleast had you not married at such a young age. Wait till after college, build your professional portfolio and your finances before you get married. If you both love each other enough to get married, then you can easily, EASILY, wait till the time is right.

Getting married under 20 these days is a terrible mistake, anyone who tells you otherwise is likely someone who made that mistake, and misery loves company ya know.

EDIT: Also to answer your real problem, a girl who wants to get married at 17 has some major issues, and is not thinking at all about the realities of getting married and the long term pacts that go with marriage, that just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen man, you, or someone needs to talk some sense into her and open her eyes, for her judgement is clearly not clear if she is 17 and thinks she is ready for marriage ANYTIME soon.

As I said man getting married under 20 these days is just asking for a divorce/financial/life-ruining experience.

 

Dude, don't get married to her. Not for a few years anyways. She's at that point in life where she thinks she knows it all but really doesn't have a clue yet. She still hasn't reached that age where she wants to experiment having sex with other people to see if she's "missing anything". She's way too young to be married and your on the young side too, but at least you seem very normal in your post. My nephews G/F purposely got pregnant by him at 17. She wanted a kid sooo bad and live happily ever after. Well guess what. She's out partying every night, fucking different guys, just living it up while he's back home at my sisters house with permanent custody of the baby, trying to take care of the baby and get his life in order. There's still so much to do and see before you should consider settling down.

 

Yeah totally forgot that aspect of it, which is huge. She and you btw will want to try new and different people being as young as yall are, and thats where the whole collapse will occur, either there or on the financial end of things.

 

thanks guys, this is the support i needed in my mind. i feel the same way you guys do... i feel its stupid... but its alright cus we fight all the time lately and everything else and i honestly dont feel its going to last much longer...

thanks guys

 

Don't let her push you into marriage yet. I got into a serious relationship straight out of high school, at 18, and we're now pretty much common-law, but it's HARD. I can't imagine it would be any easier for someone older than me, let alone someone younger. Relationships are a lot of work on both ends, possibly the most exhausting work you'll ever have.

Yes, she will grow up and grow out of it, but she's just 17. Don't cripple her by being a crutch when she gets out into the real world, either. Don't support her financially, let her get a taste of it on her own. Having to deal in the real world is what gave me a good slap in the face. So, it'll be a couple of years before she grows out of it, but just smile at her naivety and let it go.

 

hormones. they will fade.

 

What's with women being so adverse and hell-bent on never being wrong and getting incredibly sore with anyone who even hints they might be wrong about something? Ok, thats a generalization for sure based on the comment of one of the above posters and my roomate. Mostly my roomate. She has this thing where she throws dishes in the dishwasher without rinsing/scrubbing off any of the globs of peanut butter/oatmeal/grease/filth/you name it.

Half of them come out with food stuck to them but she just throws them in the cupboards or silverware drawer anyway. I've confronted my other roomate (who she is dating) about this before thinking it was him that was doing it - no way a girl would do this, I thought. I realized when I would pick the dishes with food still stuck to them out and leave them setting out just to she could see what her refusal to wash them was doing, I'd hear her come in the house later, slam the dishes back into the cupboards angrily, stomp upstairs, and not communicate with me the rest of the day except with dirty looks. And she just continues to do it.

I don't get it. My other roomate has told me she doesn't like to be told she's wrong about anything, but christ, this is ridiculous. Its like to clean off dishes before putting them in the dishwasher would be to admit she was wrong, so she continues not to do it despite the fact that half the dishes in the places where clean dishes go have chunks of tomato sauce and peanut butter sticking to them. She's a very tidy and clean person otherwise, the only reason I can guess that she continues to do this is, like I said; the way she sees it stopping would prove she was wrong, which apparently is the most awful terrible thing in the world.

I admit I'm wrong all the time. I recognize I'm human and that lifej ust works out for everyone involved when people are willing to admit they're wrong. What the fuck?

I totally went on a long and unrelated tangent from this thread. Sorry .

 

i dono thats tough but you should def tell her marriage isnt where you want to be going in your near future

 

Videotape yourself fucking her mother, then send it to her.

 

Every teenager feels like they're invincible and that they're always right - and when they grow old they wont necessarily feel likethey've changed at all - but the people around them sure will!

She'll grow out of it - shes still 17 and has a relatively sheltered view of life. I dont remember have much responsibility or much to worry about when i was 17. Once she realises all of this i dont think she will be in such a rush to get married... To be honest i dont really think her parents would consent anyway!

 

if its one thing i've learned in life, i have learned DONT GET INVOLVED WITH GIRLS WHO ARE TO PROUD TO ADMIT WHEN THEY MESS UP. STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when they dont say sorry, they dont care, therefore, dont truly care about YOU

 

How long have you two been dating? She is already talking about getting married to you? I would be a little freaked out to. I can't believe she doesn't say she is sorry for anything. Everyone is wrong atleast some of the time. I think you should tell her she needs to slow down a bit. If I may ask what are you interested in going to college for? I wouldn't want to be dating somone that young while I was in college. For me I want to be able to explore alittle bit before I settle down with anyone. Maybe you and her should take a break. Tell her that when she is able to admit she is wrong and is able to slow down only then will you continue dating her. Is she planning on going to college?

 

Little girls always seem to want to get married. Hopefully, she'll grow a little and realize that time only strengthens healthy bonds and only breaks the weak ones. If you love her, give her some time. You and her both should keep in mind that as you grow, you may grow apart - don't forget your still a kid, too!

 

Your girlfriend will probably grow up, and after making some mistakes and stuff realise she will have regrets and is wrong.
About the marriage stuff, wait till after college, if she loves you she shouldnt mind the wait anyway really.
Personally i never had a problem with my ego, im almost always wrong, im amazed when im right. I want to get married, and im quite young although i dont want to get married for at least a few years, getting engaged would be enough for me then just stay engaged for ages, its just like marriage really without the paperwork.