Destiny/meant for eachother/soulmates???

I am in a very confusing situation atm, so confusing that i dont even think confusing is the right word for it lol. I have been friends with this guy for about 6 months, we both love eachother greatly as friends and he is honestly the greatest guy i have ever known. We have SO much in common that its almost like we are the same person. We talk every day for hours at a time and never run out of things to say to eachother. I have always felt connected to him spiritually, like i'd beable to tell that he's upset before i even speak to him etc. I've had too many dreams about him to count, every now and then a dream will involve what seems to be astral projection or something. The point is that we are very connected lol. The only reason we havent taken our relationship any further is because he had a gf. We have both known for a while that we would like to be more than friends but he decided to stick by his gf. Until now, she left him. I am so scared, I want to be with him more than anything in the world but I am so so scared that I am not going to be enough for him, that he is going to end up resenting me because I am apart of the reason his gf left him, that i wont be good enough, or as good as she was. But I do know that we are connected on a very high level. So I was wondering, if we are 'meant to be' will everything work out? I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I believe that we are meant to be, but my insecurities are giving me doubts. I want to trust that everything will be ok. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated. A reading would be FANTASTIC, im sure anything would help.

Thanks in advance

 

I think I know you. Do you live in LA. Are you a friend of Bill W.?

 

no sorry, i live in australia

 

Renee, you're looking for assurances from outside yourself, but your situation is screaming for you to take responsibility - for your own confidence, for who you are and what you want, and for your relationships.

The way for you to assume that responsibility is to empower yourself to take action - through communication, understanding, and possibly negotiation and compromise. Here are some issues you need to tackle: What is it that your friend really wants? Don't fret and wonder - ASK. What's his take on the loss of his gf? Is he totally depressed, or does he have mixed feelings? I'm sure he misses her, but is he also relieved or glad to some degree?

There's something here that's bugging me about this whole thing: If he was so close to you and spent so many hours talking to you every day, why was he holding onto her? Was he just afraid to face up to her and admit that he wanted to split? Or was there something about his relationship with her that he felt he couldn't get from you? You raise the question about whether he'll blame you for his loss (though honestly, he only has himself to blame - looks to me like he was neglecting her in favor of you - you don't deserve to carry the whole burden of blame for that). Don't fret and wonder about these things - ASK. Lay it all out on the table and see if there's a common ground. Tell him what you want from this relationship, and see how he reacts, whether he feels the same or not. If there are differences in what the two of you want, see if there's any way to compromise - without giving up more than either of you is willing to. Negotiate, if necessary.

If you want to know what the universe is doing in your life right now - this is it. The universe is giving you the opportunity to take more responsibility and empower yourself. And if you do this, in the long run you'll feel more confident, more in control of your life, and happier, even if this relationship or any other relationship doesn't work the way you'd like. And by doing this, you're much, much more likely to find a relationship that fulfills you, whether with this friend or with someone else.

Let us know how things are going.

Sending you love and strength...