"Stop Dictating To Me!"--An Article....

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Hmmm. While I agree that many womyn are pressured into sex, because that is what expected, the whole "whoremonger and adulters" thing doesn't sit right with me. There are reasons other than Bible Banging to reserve sex for dedicated relationships. But, I have teenage daughters, and I feel scared that have been or will be in a situation where they may feel they have to "put out" to "save" a relationship. Despite my best intentions. My hopes and prayers are they have more sense than to buy into what society "expects."

I once dated a really nice guy, and when I was once in the middle of a raging migraine he said "Sex is REALLY good for headaches." And implied I had the headache because we hadn't had sex yet. Asshole. Needless to say, he didn't get any.

 

yeah, so I agree that no one should pressure anyone into unwanted sex (be it guy pressuring girl, girl pressuring guy..) BUT

Love isn't exclusively for those who are married, and as such I think anyone involved in a mutually loving relationship can certainly get some and still keep their own and their partner's respect.

Furthermore, why is only the guys who have to want sex? I don't think that all girls sleep with someone purely with the intention of persuading them to propose - cant we just 'shack up' for shacking up's sake? Sex, if done right, is fun, not a chore.

Does this mean you are obligated to have sex with your husband? WTF? again sex should be a pleasure, not a duty, and your husband persuading you into unwanted sex is just as bad as your boy doing it, or a rando you meet in the club.

 

I totally agree here... even husbands can rape their wives, c'mon. But this article seems to be saying that what women should be striving for is marriage, and we attempt to attain marriage through sex (we lure the man, if you will). Sorry, but I don't -ever- plan on getting married, but I sure do enjoy being intimate with my boy!

 

" Remember, you are not "obligated" to have sex with any man who isn’t your husband. If you do so, it should be YOUR decision. Don’t let some guy, who may not care anything about you, make that decision for you. "


I'm not obligated to get married either, nor do I want to, Nor do I think that it is the thing most craved by women....

 

To start with a nitpick... You don't need this quote unquote bit here. That is a verbal mechanism that works just as the quotation marks work in text.

Oooh, oooh, one of the jesus freaks that regularly rants about hellfire & brimstone on campus at my university called my boyfriend a whoremonger!!! He wanted to ask exactly how one would "monger" a whore, or anyone for that matter, but he didn't have time to even slow down, muchless stop to chat...

I don't believe in marrying anyone I have not lived with for at least a year. Do you have any idea how many marriages I've seen fall apart because they made a great couple as long as they had separate homes, but who couldn't stand living together? Marrying someone without having made sure you can actually live with him & all his nasty habits (cuz we all have them) is almost as silly to me as marrying someone without making sure you are sexually compatible.

 

I've never understood the concept of "not being ready". What the fuck is that? But then I've never understood the concept of celibacy either. It doesn't really bother me, though. The girls that play that shit are going to be too high maintenance to take seriously anyway. I don't waste my time. If a girl doesn't want to have sex, that's fine. That means we're friends. We can even be close friends or kissing frinds or whatever. But I won't even call a girl my girlfriend if we haven't sealed the deal.

 

For some reason (no offense) the word obligated really bugs me. Yeah, technically it's a word, but it sounds awful. Why not say obliged?