There is an issue which several "posters" have alluded to without actually discussing it, and that is husbands who take their wives to nudist gatherings. How do they feel about other men seeing their wives naked? I have my own ideas, but will wait until I see what others have to say on this potentially delicate issue.
I don't get it. Why would there be a problem of this particular kind, when you aren't asking about women seeing other women's husbands naked, or for that matter anyone seeing anyone naked? As far as I'm aware, nobody suffers any kind of loss or injury by being seen by someone else, clothed or naked. Maybe it would be better to explain those ideas of yours.
I will try to explain. I have been visiting nudist clubs and beaches for about thirty years, sometimes with my wife, and sometimes alone. I have talked with dozens, maybe even a hundred, other men about our mutual interests and experiences. Our conversations usually get around to discussing how we feel about other men seeing our wives naked. I get three basic answers. The first is some version of the "I don't care" answer which I have learned is the standard "company-line" answer which men of the nudist establishment have been trained to give. The second is an admission by some men that they are uncomfortable seeing other men looking at their wives' naked bodies, but that it is the "price to pay" for admission to most nudist clubs. And the third is those who will frankly admit that they enjoy showing their wives naked to other men, and that THAT is the main reason why they go to nudist gatherings of any kind. I know it will offend the nudist establishment to have to accept the fact that some men do enjoy showing their wives' naked bodies to other men, but is a fact, nonetheless. I have much evidence, gathered over a period of many years, to back-up my claims, if you wish to learn more. Let me end this by stating that if it were not for those husbands who want to show their wives naked to other men, the whole nudist movement would have died-out years ago.
When Datenudist refers to a situation in which there is an overwhelming number of men, in comparison to women, he is refering to what the Naturists call "gender balance", which means there should be approximately the same number of naked women as there are men. This is based on the belief that a woman would not be embarrassed for one or two men to see her naked, but that she would if a hundred saw her. This seems to be counter to the stated goals of nudism, and is a frank admission that sexuality really does exist at nudist gatherings, no matter how loud we may protest. The truth seems to be that men like to look at naked women, and are willing to "trade" looks at their own wives for that chance. I appreciate most those nudist men who say "Sure, I like to look!", and especially those who are honest enough to say "I like for other men to see my wife naked!" THAT is reality!
I'm not sure what the problem is here, I am a nudist and have been for a very long time. Yes I notice a nudist lady all the time, but I never really get so interest that I have to stare. And this is what this thread appeariently is about, ofcourse I have seen 1 or 2 that required a second glance and maybe a big grin. But to cause jealousy from a husband is just foolishness. if there appears to be a tattoo I may be inquisitive enough to look at that but not a body part. Body jewelry turns me away generally, just does not appeal to me. I am single so maybe this is the problem, I have no partner to be showing off, or be jealous over.
I just don't believe that any husband is totally unconcerned about other men seeing his wife naked, whatever the circumstances. It is true that veteran nudists may become very jaded by the fact that other men are looking at their wives, but I still believe there is some subliminal reaction. The well-kept secret of organized nudism is that the husbands DO want to show their wives' naked bodies to other men, no matter how much they protest to the contrary. I know I will get some angry responses from the "real" nudists, but I stick by my opinion. And I will defend it in more depth if I have to.
Hi, I've seen other men's wives naked at nudist gatherings. So, what's the big deal? As to Son of John's comments, women nudists are quite capable of thinking for themselves and standing on their own two feet. They do not need husbands to 'show them off', they are quite happy and comfortable in their own skin and they don't "show off" for other people.
For Amantil. I AM speaking for myself. I do not pretend to speak for YOU. But, I have talked with lots of other nudist husbands, and I know how they think and feel, so I am not just proposing my wild theories without some kind of informal research. As for your very lame assertion that "we all feel sorry for your wife" this is typical of those who have no substantive arguments. They attempt to give credibility to their statements by suggesting that others may agree with them. My answer is "Speak for YOURSELF, and the 'we all' speak for themselves." I stand by my original statement. I have talked with many nudist husbands, including many "establishment" types, who, when they discern that they have nothing to fear from me, will open up and admit to their true feelings. I have also been able to "inspire" enough confidence in other nudist husbands that they have included me in their "good old boy" circles as they get together and discuss their mutual interests. At one club, the manager, himself, asked me what I thought of his wife. When I hesitated, he said "Don't you think she's got nice tits?" This was not from some newcomer, but from the one guy who was most identified with the nudist movement in that place. I was with another group, at another club, where several men were building a cabin together, and one made reference to his wife. When another man did not know which lady he was referring to, a third man spoke up and said "You've seen her. She's the gal with the really big titties!" The husband did not take offense, and the others did not seem to feel that what he said was out of line. I had to assume that they conversed in this fashion without any feelings of jealousy or resentment. At a third club, after my wife and I had spent some time sun-bathing, she went to the clubhouse and a man came over and said "Your wife's a really nice-looking gal! We don't get too many like her here!" When I asked what he meant, he said "She's got the nicest set of tits! Her ass is great too! And I love to see a woman with lots of hair on her pussy! Too many of the other women shave down there!" Now, establishment types like "A", with say I should have punched him in the mouth, but this man was not wanting to be offensive. He truly did find my wife attractive and wanted me to know that he did. An Establishment type nudist is a guy who has to say to himself a few times during the day "Well, what do you know? We really are naked! I had forgotten!" Okay! I'm ready to be blasted now!
When wife and I visit nude beaches and resorts, we look and we expect to be looked at. In fact, sometimes if we notice someone staring, she has been known to spread her legs a bit for a better view.
