He can only ejaculate from a SUPER TIGHT grip. Help?!

Whenever boyfriend and I have oral sex he can only cum if I jack it off REALLY REALLY hard. It hurts my hands and my forearm because he wants it right at the tip, very fast and very hard. He always says the "nut" is "right there" but I lose it because my grip gets weaker the longer I do it. It takes about 45 minutes of sucking and jacking for him to "get off" and when I am done my hards are frozen like I have arthritis. Other boyfriends haven't taken this long or required so much WORK. Please help me. I want to get him "off" faster- I don't mind the hard grip but I can't keep it up for sooo long. Thanks.

 

I'd cum in less than 15 minutes, that's for sure. Well I'm a guy and I'm straight but here's some tips I've read and heard from women around here. Try going slow(guys love that) and then try to go faster but slow, then go hard, still slow but at a faster pace. Try dirty talking to him or something. That will do the trick.

 

In my experience of sex with women, it's often the case that they are not that familiar with the best grip in general, which is one thing where Gay sex has the advantage - another man will already know what works best.

Primarily, the most common mistake made is the orientation of the hand.

Although the glans is obviously where the main concentration of nerves are situated, as far as the rest of the shaft is concerned, the underside is the most sensitive. This means that the fingers should be placed on the underside, with the thumb at the top, in the same way as he would most naturally masturbate himself.

The thing is, that when someone else is doing the masturbating this isn't always the most obvious grip to assume.

Also, it's not always a matter of required pressure, rather than the speed of the stroke. Obviously, to make it last out, the stroke shold be slow & deliberate, responding, where possible to the automatic thrusts he will instinctively be forced to make. After a while. he will probably be driven to yearn for the rate to increase as he approaches orgasm, when you increase the speed up to a similar one to that of beating an egg which, once at this point, shouldn't take too long to reach the climax.

 

Your butt has a tight grip. Put it in there.

 

could just be really desensitized from being circumcised, if you could get him to restore the sensitivity would go up and he'd be easier to please

I have done nonsurgical foreskin restoration and it's helped me a lot.

 

Let him be in charge of the hand action, taking breaks so you can suck and stroke some also. When he is ready to come, take over, and enjoy.

 

Him not coming unless you jack him off hard is something he needs to work on. The reason people vary sex is to keep from getting in a rut where only one thing works. It sounds like he is in that rut. Most men I have known can cum from mutiple mouth or hand techniques. He needs to NOT masturbate that way until he can cum with various techniques. It will work itself out...and it needs to....no reason for you to constantly have sore wrists.

 

^YEAP..HABITS hard lol.. to break..

Same with me unless I put my mind to it... If I get in a rut of the need to have my own tight grip cum control. then the light oral support or a women will not be enough unless its a turn on besides a mechanicals BJ.. Women are good for that same techniques \sometimes...
I found if I tell my gf to work on head and not shaft so much, the tinglling nerve ends will cause orgasm faster, or lots of nasty dirty talk... which believe it or not is the best way to enjoy it...
But dude is in a rut, and has been playing with himself to much in one way....

 

dont touch him for a week or a month not to make him suffer or any thing but to alow the dick to become sensitive again. question does or did he jerk off hard or a lot couse that can make it desensitive. or stick a finger up his ass that may work lol
grap his balls and what not.
oh my gf gave an idea try blind folding him or something

 

Is he on anti-depressants?.. that will do what you're dealing with.

 

maybe he has some hang-ups?
It sure dosn't sound like a lack of effort, lol!!
If he does have some mental block; try talking to him about
his attitude about oral.

 

theres an idea!