I used to be very shy about this. I became a mute during sex. But lately I've been getting over it. It's hot!! I'm really glad I changed. I noticed the girl I'm with starts talking right back to me. She obviously likes it. I'm wondering, is it sexy for you if he says naughty things to you during oral sex or during sex, things he wants to do, calls you a dirty slut, tells you he knows you like it while pulling your hair or spanking you? Is that sexy?