For this forum I'm going to share my situation sober and then tell you my thoughts as I'm high. Sober - Hi, my name is Teash and I'm 16. I just currently started going out with a girl whom doesn't smoke pot. I'm an occassional stoner and smoke every other day or sometimes everyday. My girlfriend has a problem with me smoking, she won't tell me why she doesn't like it she just said it bothers her that I smoke. I've never pressured her to smoke and never will. We had a big talk about the whole situation and she has stated alot of times that she doesn't want to tell me what I should do with my life she has just told me that she doesn't like me smoking. I've agreed to only smoke once a week. I hope pot won't affect our relationship and I have told her over that getting high is not worth losing her so I have agreed to go once a week. Now I will share my thoughts high. While High - I feel as though I've gotten so connected to my self while high that everytime i smoke I think about all the crap going on in my life and where I stand at home and out of it. I'm in a group of friends- only 5 of us smoke weed, and guess what, the 5 other people in our group don't smoke. My girlfriend is of the 5 that don't smoke and our group isn't weird by how we function even though half of us don't smoke because we all act like it's ok and theirs no problem between it, but when you have a girlfriend it does have a problem becasue she's gonna express how she feels about pot to me which she'll just expect that I'm gonna stop smoking. One thing I do when I'm high is come up with some really powerful thought's when I'm high. If I don't make sense while your reading this sober then quickly smoke up and start reading my thought's I bet their amazing. PEOPLE PLEASE RESPOND TO THIS I NEED TO HAVE SOME OPINIONS AND MAYBE I'LL SAY MORE. :sifone: P.S. Right now I'm getting high as I feel guilty for lying to my girlfriend right after I had just promised not to smoke 6 hours ago. this is the 3rd time this week that I smoked.
Dude, you need to let your girlfriend know about how pot is one of the least dangerous mind enhancing substances. Try to cure her ignorance. If that doesn't work, stop being a pussy and get high without her being around, then you got to worry about how you smell, look and act. You should actually just find a girl who doesn't care, and all of this is avoided. But if the love is to strong, then cheers to ya.
I was gonna say something flippant like: relationship + pot = 2 stoned people Anyway, kidding aside I'm not sure what to tell you. On the one hand, if you're both agreed that you will only smoke pot once a week, then why not try to honor that agreement? It's not like she wants you to totally stop, right? On the other hand, she might start thinking, "hmm I got him to cut down on pot to only once a week, maybe..."
Whose body is it? I could understand if it was somehow really detrimental to your health or relationship (other than her not wanting you to smoke for no apparent reason). Just explain to her why you smoke and that it's not all that wrong. If she's not ok with you smoking, then do you really think someone that controlling is someone you want to be with? I nearly went out with a girl that smoked, but wanted me to stop if we actually did go out. She claimed she wanted me to stop because I cared more about herb than her, but they are two very different types of "care". I cared for bud in an entirely different way than I did her. Well, long story short I never made the commitment, exactly because of the "controlling" aspect.
I think you need to decide what's more important. I realize that might not be too pleasant of a thought, but there's no point in being in a relationship with someone if they are trying to change who you are or what you do. I'd give it some thought...but I completely agree, if you made the commitment to smoke only once a week, I would try my very hardest to stick with it....it's better to say that you're not willing to listen to her then lie and say you are, then go and smoke. Good luck. eace:
heres the deal, never have a relationship assuming that one of you wil change ur behavior for the other one, if u do at some point it needs to be ur choice.so many young girls make that mistake. both of you need to let it go or youll be over before ya know it!!!
And on that note, Dave Chappelle's character in Half-baked had this to say: "I love weed. I LOVE IT! But not as much as I love pussy."
I can't tell you what to do. I know what you mean about how smoking can be more than just a good time, and can help you learn about yourself. For that reason, I know I personally would not date someone who asked me to quit, at least not at this point in my life. Another important fact, people don't change for others, they change for themselves. Sure you could continue smoking behind her back. Hell, if I was in your position I might too, but if she is one of your close(st) friends...I would fear ruining the friendship. It is unclear how close you two were prior to this relationship. But I'd keep that in mind when deciding all this, perhaps a friendship would be the best and easiest thing.
The way I see it now is I have to hide my pot smoking from my girlfriend the same way I hide it from my parents. Since Tuesday I've shown evidence of an effort to stop smoking by refusing my girlfriend's friend's invite's to go smoke up with them. As long as all the times I smoke up are as I'm alone in my home and while i will not talk to her in any way then I'll be fine right? I don't worry much but it seems like an asshole move. I've thought of what would be a major thing that I will see in a girl is if she smokes pot or not or if she is ok with it. I'm never getting into a relationship with a girl that isn't ok with my weedsmoking. And if i ever get caught (fat chance) then I will say it was the only time that week that I smoked. How clever? :sifone: Getting high is so fun. How did they figure out what getting high is like without acctualy doing it? Scientists should smoke up when they test mary jane so they could tell you the scientific back up of smoking weed and the effects of smoking physcologically too. If physciatrists smoked up they would probably be the smartest people ever while high n they could probably mess with u in ur mind if you were doing it with them. I can think so good while I'm high, I bet if i went to class high I'd get 100% on every test n subject, although that sounds very fun, I would never really do that as that is simply irresponcible of me and it would be so obvious that I'm high. Even though I look high whilst high I am totaly responcible and I can really get interested in learning because I would follow it better while high because I listen really good like i can understand things in people and thoughts. This is making me want to become a physciatrist but that is stupid because it sounds right in my mind but it wouldn't really be said good unless I manage to say it right which I might be able to learn. So I'm not saying I could be a physciatrist, I simply state that I have the potential. Then that would be amazing.
never date someone who wants to change you. ever. she knew what you about when she got with you. so thats her problem.
Yeah but if she dumps me then that'll really suck shes hot n I really like her n she is way more important then getting high n I've told her that many times, but it really is my own thing that I think I'm gonna probably do in further relationships I'm gonna make it clear that pot is my thing n I'm not gonna change just for my girlfriend. I'm gonna slowly push my girlfriend to accepting it because I know I'm good enough to do that. The further we'll go she'll learn if it's something she can accept or not n she can't then we'll split n I'll be ok with that because I'll be pumped to go out n start over.
she probably doesnt like it because shes not doing it with you. even though she doesnt like, thats what she probably thinks. maybe find something that just the two of you like to do and do that with her so she can relate to you and you can only relate to her. if shes not against all drugs, maybe try a new drug with her and together try something first. i think she will also be happy that you at least are making somewhat of an effort to cut back. i agree though you shouldnt have to change for her
