I am a straight guy who want to suck a little cock. But I need two big things (besides cock): safety and discretion. Unfortunately for straight male cocksuckers like me, discreet blow jobs often aren’t safe and safe blowjobs aren’t usually discreet. The most discreet blow jobs are the anonymous ones given in sex clubs, parks, toilets, and other notorious sleaze pits. Give a blow job under a bush in the middle of the night and your friends probably won’t find out about it. Unfortunately, the men you meet under bushes tend to be sleaze pits themselves and most will be carrying at least one STD. The safest blow jobs, on the other hand, are the ones you give to someone you know and trust and have been dating for at least a few months. Unfortunately, dating isn’t very discreet. Your friends or family may meet him, or see you two together and suspect something. So this is the dilemma.
I've thought about that myself, if I ever had a secret fuck buddy. The thing is, you have to intensely interview the person you're getting involved with, to make sure he's not going to get all posessive on you and call all the time. Or at least act a little too feminine or touchy-feely around you and your wife. Those are some pretty good warning signs. And although I haven't hooked up with anyone just yet, common logic would tell me to be caucious about guys like that.
I have the same problem as well. Too bad there isn't some nationally recognized organization that could like print you a photo id that says you got a clean bill of health but not have any personal stuff on there. Just photo and date.
why dont u carry condoms with u i know its no waire neer as good but it still feels nice and its safe or maby u could find a gay fuck buddy who u could have around ur friends and just say hes ur gay friend and u dont have problem with it but ur "str8" but secretly yall fuck on the side or suck what ever it is
I am worried about this as well. I've set up some hook-ups through craigslist and other personals websites. I've been taking my time trying to get to know them first and have a few good ones I'm going to pursue soon. I really dont want to use condoms because my fantasies involve sucking a dick without one, and having my dick sucked without one. I'm attracted to the cock more than anything, I guess because I was never really greatly endowed in that department. So having that burier between us would seemingly ruin it for me. Just to be safe though, I think the first couple of times I would like to use one.
It seems like a lot of guys on Craigslist are really anxious about hooking up immediately. And most of the time they appear to be at home or lurking aorund somewhere, readily accessible to whoever wants a quick bj or more. That kind of scares me, but I guess after you've done it a few times, you get use to that kind mindset. Though for me, I want a little passion that first time, just so that it makes me a little more relaxed, other than rushing to doing some dude in a dark and filthy public restroom somewhere. The other thing is that it seems so common online for guys to hook up, but you never encounter it in public. Of course I wouldn't expect to see it anywhere, but given the randomness that these hook ups occur, you would think that you might hear an occasional moan in a secluded bathroom stall, or something like that. One time I was with my family in a Macy's department store, and I went to the restroom there. When I went into a stall - which happened to be a full length door instead of being cut off at the shins, it sounded like a couple of guys in there having a little fun. I have to admit that I was a little turned on, but it was hard to tell if they were actually doing anything at all. Since then, I've thought about visiting that restroom again, in hopes that I might come across more guys going at it.
