girlfriend cant have an orgasm

At the moment of nearly reaching an orgasm she pulls away and stops me. What can we do to stop her from stopping me and to finally reach an orgasm. She has been like this always and has never experienced an orgasm before ever in her life and she is 28, i am 31.

We talked about it alot as it has made me feel as if i cant satify her.

We have both agreed to look in to it and see what the problem might be.

Any advice from anyone would be appreciated

thx

 

anyone?

 

Can she orgasm when she's by herself?

 

she cant orgasim because she stops you...
..maybe if you kept going?

 

Does she know how AWESOME they feel? lol

how is your guys sex life in general?

 

get her drunk.

 

If she can't orgasm that's really normal.

I still can't understand why people think its so easy when in reality it ain't.

I think all women are physically capable of it, i think its all controlled by the mind.

If we look at the way we live its no wonder women can't orgasm.

 

do not listen to this person. women orgasm all the time. and enjoy it immensely, thank you very much. if a woman can't orgasm with YOU...well...think about it.

 

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Oh yeah, thats really going to help.

 

troof. idk why anyone would want to stop themselves from wanting to orgasm.

 

seriously, relaxation is the key...IF the problem is really entirely on her end...so to speak.

 

How long have you been together?? Many women are uncomfortable with "letting go" with someone she is not totally comfortable with . A lot of that has to do with puritanical upbringing..sex is bad/dirty..don't touch yourself..sex is for procreation only..women should just endure it, not enjoy it. If she's game watch her masturbate. It's very erotic having your lover watch you..a very enlightening experience for both parties..

 

Perhaps you're hitting her G-Spot? When this happens it feels like you are going to pee and the natural response for a girl experiencing this for the first time is to stop. The female ejaculate is NOT pee. It's fluid that is built up in the G-spot tissue. That being said, there will be a lot of it, but there's nothing to be concerned about beyond the wetness.

Here's an idea: Have you just come out and asked her why she stops you?

 

Very good advice.

I did the same thing with an ex that your chick does to you. Looking back, I really didn't trust him in a way to lose my inhibition. That and he tried too hard, if it comes on too suddenly, it can be painful. Especially if you're not use to it.

 

if she's about to cum from you touching her clit, it may be hurting her. i dunno, one time i was with a guy who was rubbing my clit just way too hard and i stopped him and apparently he thought i was about to cum but stopped him for some reason, but actually it just hurt. i dunno... that's a sensitive area. some girls don't like it.

 

I used to do this with my first partner.

I masturbated as a young teen and in childhood, but never brought myself to orgasm. I lost my virginity at 15, and during the time leading up to that point, the boy and I fooled around a lot -- and just as I was starting to feel 'out of control' I'd tell him to stop, or start laughing, or pull away.

I was raised in a very conservative household. I'm the only girl, with three brothers, and am the eldest. Although I don't have a specific memory to back this up, I believe that my parents discouraged masturbation when I was young, not knowing how to handle it, and that's where my problems were rooted -- right at the point of orgasm, when I was alone or with that first partner, my impulse would be to cease whatever was happening and feel embarrassed/ashamed.

My first orgasm was with that first partner through penetration -- it was missionary position, but in a way that he was rubbing against my clitoris in a more indirect way. Gradually, I learned to masturbate through oral sex, manual stimulation by him, and eventually myself. I owe a lot to him in terms of learning about myself sexually, and losing the guilt that I came to associate with it somewhere along the way.

This is kind of a long post, but I guess the main point I'm trying to make is that not everybody, for whatever reason, starts out with the same level of sexual awareness. At fifteen, I was very behind for my age I believe. But eventually, I think that most women either learn themselves or, like me, are taught.

In response to the advice to continue when she says to stop -- I don't think this is a good idea. A better approach would be to stop whenever she asks and to talk about what she's feeling until she is ready to continue -- and definitely do encourage her to ask you to continue. If this situation is anything like mine, I think that everything definitely needs to be at her pace, since it is essentially starting from ground zero.

Anyway, enough rambling from me.
:]

 

Let her fake it, whats the difference.

Only kidding, ask her what makes her feel the best- then go to town .

 

:iagree:that explains itself

 

for most people, yeah.
some of us, for one reason or other, have a lot of mental blocks in place about sexuality that have to be worked through.
everyone's different. :]