Well, I met up with a guy tonight with intentions of having my first experience with a man. Things didn't go as I'd expected, the guy wanted to do more things than I was comfortable with and it just freaked me out. So I left not even 10 minutes after arriving. But now all I can think about is trying again. The first thing that turned me off about it was that he wanted to make out, and I really have no desire to kiss a man. Not saying it wouldn't and couldn't happen. I was just looking for some mutual JO which would then lead to some touching and oral. I explained this ahead of time. I told him I didn't want to make out, so then he was about to put me straight into oral position, in the dark, so I had to get out of there. My fantasy was to get off with another, not make love to him like he was trying to do. lights off, music playing, making out, straight into sex is not what I was after. So were any of you that nervous for your first time? Was I nervous or did the guy just rub me the wrong way? I'm so pissed at myself for being so courageous to drive to his house and get all the way to the bedroom to pussy out, but damn it just didn't seem right.
It's almost uncanny how your description is similar to an experience i had. I've always been attracted to men and women really, even though that's often hard for me to admit to and something which no one really knows (however i think the girlfriend suspects). When i reached the end of my teen years i figured i had to decide which way i was going to swing, so i stayed at a place over night of a friend i knew was gay. The exact same thing happened. He wanted to make out, and the feeling of stubble against my face was horrible. I didn't have a car so i wasn't able to drive home, so i pushed on. We got in a 69 position and sucked each other off. It was really hot sucking his cock but he insisted on pushing his fingers...well, you know where. It became apparent to him and myself that i really wasn't getting into it and i decided to cut it short and go to bed. It's funny, i would have been fine just jerking off with him... Are we a midway bread of bisexual? I don't know...I'd like to hear others opinions.
You guys are not alone. I had gone to a friends house with the same intention. He wanted to get into kissing and hugging, etc.. All I wanted to do was have a mutual j/o or bj session. :cheers2: I don't know about you guys, but I have absolutely no desire to kiss or hug or get all lovey/dovey with a guy, but I had the strongest desire to jerk and suck a cock. The first time, things didn't work out and I chickened out, made an excuse and split. On the way home, I felt like I shorted myself by not going through with it. Althought I couldn't go through with kissing him, I still wanted to suck his cock. Go figure. He eventually saw my side of it and that I didn't really have any gay desires, just lust for cock. Tell me if I am wrong. Are our bi experiences an extention of what we would like to do to ourselves(or have our wives do it), but can't?
yip - same here. never had a real gay experience, but would like to just jerk and suck - no kissing and loving crap
Jerking, sucking fucking I like. Can be bears or twinks. But for me to get into kissing, the guy has to be a total twink, femboy. No desire to kiss a masculine type guy.
I just didn't think that a mutual j/o, BJ and split needed any foreplay. Can't I just come in, throw on some porn, drop trow and go from there?
It has been so long for me the memory gets fuzzy. I was curious about making it with a guy while still in the Air Force but didn't actually do anything for a couple years. My first time was actually some older guy taking me to his house drunk. My first willful time was letting another older guy take me home - and I don't recall kissing him or even wanting to, but I was game for new experience, so I wouldn't have balked or bolted if he had wanted to kiss. (tell the truth, I can't really remember too much of that one - maybe drunker than I thought) Finally, I started seeing both guys and girls a lot and the make outs were actually similar. I suppose I am lucky to have come out in 1969 in the height of the free luv era where boys and girls were doing anything that moved. I am very oral and got into not only licking and kissing cocks, balls, pussies and tits, but I even got into kissing mouths. I don't mind the stubble of a guy on my face, nor that man smell as I nuzzle his armpit or crotch, just the same as with a woman. I have a buddy here, Raul, who kisses so naturally and smoothly that I can get lost in it. Maybe I have broken free of some of that cultural conditioning that guys go thru.
Guys, You have been absolutely right to stick to your guns and draw your lines. Especially, if you had stated your preferences beforehand. Equally so, you ought to understand that it takes two to tango. Every sex is some sort of a compromise for both partners. In other words, you'll have to draw a mental list of the things a) that are not really making you tick, but you are willing to do that and go there, since they work for this other dude and b) a list of things that are the absolute 'no dos' in your world. When it comes to sex, you want to keep your minds open and try new things for you, within your own set limits. Even if you happen to find a buddy, who will absolutely want to agree in everything sexual with you, you will soon realize that repeating one and the same act ad nauseam is not bringing you anywhere... KD
my first time with a guy was kinda similar he wanted me to suck his cock but i felt that if i did him first he wouldnt do me so i made him go first then we did liek a 69 but then he tryed to like throut fuck me and i was not having it then he put his hand on my head to hold me thaire so i bit him yeah thats right i bit him i told him he could do me if he wanted but i wasent gunna do him ever again it really spoiled my outlook on men for a wile i had lost my atraction uh and the worst part was he got all girly on me after ward and it liek made me feel wiered i dont talk to him any more and have yet to find a guy i feel comfortable sucking
I came close to having my first experience too, but at the last minute, I wasn't able to host. He's young enough to be my son if I started early enough, but after I told him that I couldn't hook up after all that planning and talking about it, he stopped calling and texting me. Every now and then he might respond to my IM's, but it's usually one liners, or "I'm busy, brb" - and never responds. Other than him, all I get are these weirdos on CL that are infactuated with black cock, so they email me all the time wanting to hook up - but I'm not interested. Guess I'll just have to wait to find the right person. But who would have thought that black men are such a commodity in the gay/bi world in certain parts of the country/world.
