i lied to my girlfriend long ago and now we broke up. I used to spend too little time with my mother, and she died of cancer some months ago. I feel guilty, 'cause maybe if i had pay more atention, i'd see she was unhealthy. Now that my love left me, i am completely alone in my life. And i don't know how the hell i will face tomorrow, Everything's my fault. It's karma. Thank you.
Jesus, what assholes there are on these forums. What kind of cat gets their kicks from making fun of people with serious problems?
Well, it's ok... you know, this is the web, and there's a lot of people here just trying to be badasses or whatever. I'm sorry for my english.
Hey listen, Karma did not kill your mother. hanging out with her more wouldnt have saved her. Was she hiding her illness from you? did your girlfriend and you break up because you lied to her? what was the lie about?
well, i know karma did't kill my mother. She was not hiding.. it's just that she nwas very introspective (i don't even know if this word is written this way in english), and i believe she was feeling bad, but did not tell anyone, or she was just too busy to think of it (she was working too hard). About my girlfriend, well, she was very confused about her feelings... but you know, i never lie, and i told her i had lied to her, few years ago. I don't even know if i really lied... i was pretty confused, my head was bad, it was a bad time for me, i was with lots of problems... But anyway, it feels just fine to say something about this, you know? Because i found out, i'm without friends right now, so... i just needed to say something to someone.
Hey these things happen and you can't blame yourself for them, even though it may seem that way. Just learn from these experiences and better yourself.
It would be cool of you to tell your girlfriend that you didn't mean to hurt her by lying to her, and that you love her, etc.
no worries. friends come and go, girlfriends come and go. ups and downs are what make this life so interesting. I'm sorry about your mother, but sadly death is just another fact of life. no use in feeling guilty about not spending time with her, you can not change that now. better to honor her memory by remembering the good times you had together. and from the way you tell your story it seems to me that your lie wasn't what ended the relationship, more likely your girlfriend had her own issues and had to focus on herself. it's quite possible it had nothing, or very little, to do with you. it's just a bump in the road, my friend, and you have many of them ahead of you - we all do. but, the flip side is, there are also lots and lots of happy times ahead. stay positive. all the best.
That's life, there's assholes and chill people anywhere you go. Just ignore the assholes (don't stoop to their level, because then you're no better than they are) and try to surround yourself with the chillers. Anyways, in regards to your situation....maybe the lie sounds like it could have been karma, but even then I don't know what the lie was and perhaps she simply discovered the lie and no longer felt the same way towards you as she had before knowing of this lie. There's a fantastic life lesson one could/should get out of your mom's situation though bro. That is to never take anything for granted (especially people), because you never know how long not only you'll be here, but whatever is being taking for granted as well. It can be hard, and even if you don't really enjoy being around family (I consider many friends to be family though.) you should try to make the best out of any situation, that's just life....much like poker always trying to make the best with what you've got. (I see some kind of metaphor(s) in just about everything, so forgive me if you think they (it's) cheesy).
