After getting out of a very serious relationship how do you know when it's time to move on and start dating?
man I got left about 3 days ago. I wish it was already time to start dating because I hate how it hurts.
it's time whever you feel a spark of real interest in another person. however, take your time getting around to it, since it could just be loneliness and rebound syndrome.
Yeah, that, and also make sure you're not carrying any resentment or regrets from the last relationship. Give yourself time to heal and learn about things you'd like to do better or different for certain things. Look at it not as a failure, or a waste of time, but rather another lesson in life to help improve your wisdom for the days ahead... You may be thinking I'm just a guy, but I assure you, I'm not the average guy. Aside from that, I recommend a great book that helped me in the past that will help speed up the healing process. It's called, "Mars and Venus Starting Over" by John Gray, and, if you can find it, "The Secret of Letting Go" by Guy Finley (I think). I'm not one to just shrug off my special times with a lady like most guys, I usually take about a year or so to heal, but after reading these books, I learned some things and confirmed others I kind of knew, but wasn't sure. Read slowly, let the words sink in, practice the exercises and do the quizzes. From this, I shed any unwanted baggage that usually goes into the next relationship, and that's not fair for either of you... baggage only causes the same junk to happen in every relationship and after a while, you feel cursed... depression gets worse, you run out of answers, and remain in the loop of confusion and dispair. Read the books, it helps, and I hope I did too. Peace people, Spirit Wynd
look for freindships and don't worry about dating. it does hurt. i'd say date when you get asked out and pursue a friendship until your ready for more.
the only person that can tell you when its time to move on, is yourself! when you feel like you are completely over the person you were last with, and you know you WANT to try it with someone else... then its time. and when i said "completely" over the last person, i didnt mean like hate them and want them out of your life for good. i mean if you cared about them so much, then chances are u will prolly never "completely" get over them, cuz you will still care and want them atleast as a friend.... but when you can look at them JUST as a friend and accept thats all their ever going to be, then you should def. move on. p.s. you only get to live life once, so make the best of it! move on and experience the great things in life.... who knows, you may meet someone even more special than your last person! =) goodluck
I was in a long relationship 11 years, last 3 we were engaged.Broke up almost 6 months ago.I agree with the above. Go out and meet new people(Friends). If it turn out to be more then great, If not you have a new friend. I have meet alot of new and interesting people. I am not dating yet but have meet new friends. That are showing me new thing. So hang in there. Hope it works out.
I've thought about it, but I feel so guilty just thinking about other guys. It's been over a year, I think I should be over that part, and ready to move on. I don't want to end up a lonely cat lady.
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