The Science of Gaydar

Posted this, cos its one of the most in depth articles on this topic I've seen

Here

As you can see all pretty complicated, and this article will give you a bit of a clue as to why so many researchers are in the dark, to much focus on femine in the gay male, and masculine in the gay female. Just like the rest of society no one want to face up to the truth, its just a much about hyper masculinity in gay males and hyper feminity in the gay female.

Anyway folks, as to Gaydar, just remember with both Gay males and Gay females; eyes and facial expressions with half of us, voice and hearing with the other half, with some of us mixed in between.

Gay males: Half of us: Girls eyes and Girls expressions on Guys faces, doesnt matter how butch the guy is. The other half: Girls voice and extra sensitive to picking up how another guys voice changes in response to them.

Gay Females: Half: Guys eyes and expressions on a girls face; doesnt matter how girly the girl is. The other half: Slightly closer to a guys voice, not so much about pitch but about how pitch tempo and volume change in response to some girls .

Note again: There is no red line seperating halves, some in the middle are mixed. Eg Carson Kressly is mixed.

Why it all gets hidden:
*Gaydar is not static, its something you get better at as you get older. *The differences between gay and straight get more pronounced as we all get older.
*We prefer to think we are gay all cos of what nature gave us, not social conditioning
*Everyone in society, including us thinks its all about us, and not the way we are treated differently by straight people throughout our lifetime
* Why it is that way, girls eyes on guys faces etc, has to do with social conditoning starting very early on, and it has to do with stuff straight people NEVER want to talk about or even admit to; naughty feelings between family members and NOT how thats expressed between family members, but how its expressed in secret to those in society most familiar to a family member to them - us

Eg: Most girls really love their dads, they spend years loving their dads, a guy who doesnt look at them with sexy eyes, which other non related guys in society do the same, look at them lovingly with no sex in the eyes?

Don't assume some people dont know the big chunk of the puzzle as to why we are gay, its hidden in that early childhood stuff most people dont remember or block out. And if it does come back to you, its not stuff you can really say out loud to anyone (especially straight people), not about sex, its about love which is really about bonding

 

I hang out with alot of gay men and I can honestly say,my gaydar totally sucks.Maybe it's because I have alot of male friends who don't look at me with sex in their eyes,so I always just assume it's just a platonic thing. Many times I've found out later that they are gay and I'd have never guessed.

 

who gives a shit about gaydars?? Just be yourself, and you'll find someone.

 

Interesting read, but I agree with those who'd rather not find a definite biological cause of gayness. It seems counterproductive to think of it as either a condition or an identity. Of course, we must give full regard to empirical observations, but it seems like most of the research mentioned here is out to prove preconceived notions.