Here me out, we've all seen at least one episode of some show where a guy is dating a girl that he hasn't had sex with because he believes she's a " good " girl and then finds out she's a whore and only now with him wants to change that. I find these episode really funny but at the same time they question what I would do in that situation, I'd be mad pissed. Well anyway to bring to light a friend of mine just so happens to have gotten himself in one of these hilarious/sad situations. He's been dating a girl for almost 2 months, she's given him head, they've been kissing etc. But no sex because she kept telling him she wanted to wait a bit. Right, well, he FINALLY found out what I found out about 2 weeks ago myself, that she isn't the type of girl that likes to " wait ". Now she's not that big of a whore, not like some of the tv shows that I've seen, like there was one I forget the name where this guy was dating a kindergarden teacher and found out in Highschool she got fucked by the whole football team, HA. Well anyway, you can't know the exact numbers but apparently she had sex with somewhere around 20 some odd guys, I was talking with a girl that knew her and she tried and list the guys, and we ended up with somewhere around 20,22. From like 15 until like 18 she was the typical drunk whore, get drunk, get fucked, she's 19 now btw. It's amazing because meeting her myself I didn't get that vibe either. So anyway my friend found out and now he's in shock, I mean he's alright with the idea of women sleeping with other men of course, but ya gotta feel for him not getting laid for almost 2 months when dating a girl that has had dozens of dicks in her. I suggested he at least goes through and fucks her, finally, because I mean, he did spend almost 2 months, might as well get something out of it. But he kinda wants to end it. Anyway, this isn't very special, you get a lot of girls that come out of High School or College and want to " change " and when confronted with their past they say " I was a different person " or some crap like that. Well I personally think it's unfair no? I mean think about it this way, let's say a company produces real orange juice not from concentrate, then they start producing real orange juice, but now it's from concentrate. It's NOT FAIR! lol Not for the people who were buying the orange juice not from concentrate before! LMAO! But seriously, I mean, I understand the whole bettering yourself process and shit, and ya you have to get away from what you don't like eventually, but the whole notion that you're dating somebody who just a year ago was a whore and now wants to be " clean " or so to speak. I dunno, I wish girls like that didn't change, same with the guys, once a player, always a player, am I right? Common!
I get what you mean with the whole unfair business: if I was in his shoes I would probably be pissed. It's sorta like 'why must I suffer because you want to prove something to yourself?' But any girl friends of mine that do such changes; I always encourage it wholeheartedly, sluts are one thing this world seems to have enough of. One thing I don't get: why does your boy wanna end it? I mean, she's averaging on over a dick per year - but that's not even necessarily a lot by today's standards.
Haha, nice title.. So it seems that he is only upset at the fact that he is not having sex with her, not the fact that she slept around a lot, that's okay, but just as long as he is getting some too..? Am I correct in this assumption..?
Yeah that's exactly it, he feels shortchanged for lack of a better word. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't care if he got laid every day. Can you blame him? Course I can't say how good she's at blow jobs but if I was ever dating a girl like her I'd expect to get laid by the 2nd date lol.
Haha, I don't know but that's pretty funny...Why doesn't he just come out and ask, I mean what does he have to lose... But people do change and I understand his bewilderment but again people change...
The first thing that needs to change is your attitude towards women. Whore is a degrading term even if it's true. Don't use it. The second thing your friend can do is be more is be more aware. Don't blame the actions of another if you're too dense to see it coming yourself. x
You know I'm a woman, I don't find the term offensive because it would be stupid if I did.. Besides, a guy can be a whore too so it wouldn't be just offensive to women you know...
I call some guys players, but most guys that play too much I do call whores, no, seriously, my rule is this in the last 4 years if you've averaged more than 2 partners a year you're a bit of a whore, so I don't use it, for women I call them foxes and men I call them players, I really don't mind, whatever, but if the ratio is more than 4 partners a year in the last 4, which means a different partner less than 3 months on a continuous basis then yeah I've called guys whores. Obviously I'm talking about relationships we all know some men and women can have a bit of a fun month right. P.S. The girl I mentioned in my OP might not have had traditional relationships but she did have like a dozen guys she slept with more than one night stands, like guys that knew her and might pick her up at a party rather than another stranger, but they'd all fuck her much the same.
I'm with the rest of the group. Fuck censorship and fuck this oversensitivity you're using. A person that sluts around is a person that sluts around; no matter what the fuck you call her. As long as the message is getting across - the proper word was used. Definitely.
Did your mate pick this girl because he thought she was a ho? If so, that is terrible and serves him right that she has decided to keep her legs together..
I don't know exactly, but like I said in my OP he didn't know she had slept with that many men, maybe he had heard she wasn't a virgin but I'm certain he didn't just pick her up because he thought she was a sure thing.
Although I can see why your friend would be annoyed, or hurt, or whatever, I don't think he should hold it against her. If she wants to change, that's her decision and she has every right to do so. If he wants to be with her regardless, then he should. If he wants a girlfriend that will put out, then he should go find that. Are you two even sure that these accusations are 100% true? Maybe her "friend" has an agenda and is out to get her, and is just talking shit to be mean.
HAHA, lol I just think he's getting ripped off, and to be frank, this is past tense now, this situation ended a couple of weeks ago, he decided to move on because she was really being a bitch and just not putting out, he confronted her with these accusations and she admit she use to be like that, " use " which is like, what a year ago or something, well anyway she said she didn't want to have sex and instead be more like friends but a little more intimate and then later on they could get physical. He told her he thought she was being unfair and that she let a bunch of guys fuck her and he felt she had opened up to them more than she had to him. Etc, etc, etc. Jesus I'm glad I'm not single.
This is the crux of the issue right here. Guys equate sex with intimacy. If a girl always waits a couple months to put out, then that's understandable and some guys will be okay with waiting. But since she has been around the block a few times, he takes it personally. And it looks like he was probably right, seeing as how she wanted to "be more like friends but a little more intimate". If she wants to stop being as slutty as she once was, that's great. But ending the drunken one-night stands is the way to do that, not stringing along a guy for two months. It sounds to me like she was just toying with this guy. Yeah, the guy shares some of the blame, but it sounds to me like she was probably a little less than honest about her sexual past.
