Hi guys, I've recently realized that I might be bi, and I wanted to explore these feelings further. However, I only have straight friends (mostly guys), and don't feel it's necessary to come out to them yet... I have been frequenting gay bars a lot (alone) in an attempt to meet people, but I'm not ready to be intimate in yet (even wary about kissing). These are my experiences so far: 1) Talked to this guy for 5 minutes then got invited to a dinner party and asked if I liked to go to bathhouses (which I had to look up on the internet) 2) Anytime I make eyecontact with a guy he instantly thinks it means I want to have sex with him 3) Anytime I dance with a guy I get groped 4) Random people grabbing my ass 5) Constantly badgered if not drinking Other than this, every once in a while I meet a really cool guy, but they always get to sexual and flirtacious. I know this is because it's a bar scene so most people are just there to hook up, but I always meet tons of people at straight bars so I don't understand why it's different? My Q is do any guys go to gay bars to make friends? Am I just not going to the right bars? Are there other ways to meet other gay guys (other than internet)? I feel like I'm going through puberty again lol and everything is just so new/awkward Thanks for all your help/advice guys
I can total agree with you m8 - i mean i want sex (don't we all) but not allways as a 1 night stand kinda thing. I think you just have to sift through the crap and there should be a guy out there who you can have a good relationship with.
ur 21 are u in college cause at my school they have a club for gay and lesbian peoples and most of the people thaire are liek not sex starved people out for a one night stand so liek u should go to that if thaires something liek that neer u cause thaire u can talk about ur new feelings with live people and also make friends u can suck n fuck
You have a (formal) gay club collage - wish my school had that - it was just "brushed under the carpet" and not much more said or wanted to be said about it. - Fucking homophobs.
I met a young college guy but we haven't done anything just yet. He's waiting for his room mate to move out this weekend, so he and I can finally have some first time fun... And boy I can't wait!!! I just hope he doesn't change his mind as we get closer to that magical day.
I'm with Dark sugar. Im in London and at most unis there are LGBT societies but failing that, look in the local paper for meeting groups or the same for the area...or a different area if you want to get out of your town (very understandable). I totally agree. When I was coming out as bi and didn't have any friends who were I realise you can't "get in" to a group without already knowing someone gay. When I met one, I met a million. It's very strange. I still find it difficult. I think it's worse with men in gay clubs but women are not that different. Keep hope. We're with ya. x
