hey well i have this 1 problem that i cant get over, its kinda stupid i think but i cant help it but here goes....ive known my gf now for a half a year now, we got 2gether for a month, then she broke it off because of circumstances beyond our control(she didnt want 2 but had 2 break up), but then she begged for me back and now we are back together for about 2 months now. But the big problem is that she has told me to much, she has told me to much about her past relationships...and well im kept up all night some nights thinking about it. i mean i am still young and i havent been in a serious relationship like this before, but i love her so much..so is that the problem, that i love/care about her 2 much? we r both still virgins, but are planning on havin sex together..but heres an example of wat i mean, she told me once the most amazing time she had with some1 else(she brought it up out of nowhere when we were talking once) was with her boyfriend at the time where both of them were realli drunk n they ended up all over eachother up against a car, the didnt have sex, but she said their friends saw it and they reckoned they may as well have been having sex it was that intense...i mean wtf?!...now im kept awake at night with that in my head n i cant get it out of my head! to make things worse, when we broke up and got back together she confessed that she made out with her ex while we were broke up(the same guy as above and again when they were very drunk)...this time she even went into detail where his hands were which realli didnt help the situation.... there were other things she told me as well but those two incidents are effecting me the worst...its gone as far as i am thinking of breaking up with her its that bad, thats the only way i think i can stop thinking about her past like this, but if i do break up with her, i no im going to regret it when she finds somebody else...i guess its also got 2 do with the fact she has been in more relationships than i have and like we r planning the rest of our life together(which also kinda scares me because i feel that i am missing out on a lot in life u no as we r still very young, but i want to spend the rest of my life with her at the same time coz i love an care about her so so much if that makes any sence?)....we also live a bit of a distance apart(and will b for about 2 years thats if the relationship is still there..) so i cant help but think that she could cheat on me with this ex of hers when she is out without me(they r still friends and she said that the 2 of them are always very, touchy feely around eachother i dunno).... i no a lot of u will advise to just forget about her past and look 2 the future, but its not that easy to just get out of your head, i mean is it rite that your partner talks about their past relationships like this? i guess thats my problem in a nutshell oo just and just for the record, i never talked about my past b4 like this 2 her coz i no it would hurt her...so can any1 advise me on wat to do or has any1 else ever had a similar experince?.. thanks
She sounds really unfaithful, if y and my DH broke up there is no way that I could get over him and make out with someone else. I doubt she cares about you as much as you think, and she sounds like a bit of a slut.
i dunno realli...i dont think i would go as far as calling her a slut as this was only one guy, not a bunch of other guys, and he was her bf when she told me about one of the incidents....as for her not caring about me as much as i think...i dunno i guess that there could b some truth there...i dunno why, but i just get the feeling that i am some kind of back up?...i mean when we first started talking(b4 we decided 2 go out 2gether), she did go out with her ex again(not the same guy as the guy i was talking about) for a week, n then he broke up with her, then i suddenly hear from her again(without hearing a thing from her during that week that they were going out)...so that kinda affects me still, im left thinking, what if he(or any of her other of her exs) comes along and wants her back and she accepts or if he never broke up with her, i would never hear from her again....i would b devasted...
I think your right, you could be a back up..regardless I think you really need to talk to her. If your this concerned then there are some problems that need to be discussed Best of luck *mental hug*
hehe thanks sarahrei, im gonna talk 2 her, but im kinda worried about it...i tried talk 2 her about some problems that were on my mind in the past but it ended up with her giving out to me!! or she would say sumthin like forget about it and that would b that, but if there was sumthin annoying her or on her mind, she wouldnt think twice about letting me know about it and it usually ends in a huge argument!!....we r not talking at the moment, which is why all these things r on my mind more than usual(which is driving me insane!) and is why i came here advise so it mite b a while b4 i can talk to her about this....
mmm well cozi usually i call her every nite...but last week, i tried call her 3 nights in a row at the time that i usually call her at, but those three nights i tried call her she didnt pick up or hung up on me for no reason...me, being p*****d off by this stage decided to stop calling her and whenever she wants 2 talk, let her give the signal when its ok 2 call her, but i havent heard anythin from her, not even a reason why she hung up on me or didnt pick up, this happend before alrite, we went a week without talking and i was the one who ended up apologising first, but she thought it was all my fault!!! and i never got an apology off her....so yea i havent heard from her since last week and im not going 2 to anythin to b honest, im just going to wait....
well i have been talkin 2 her, but she called me coz whe was very upset last nite over sumthin that happend in work, so that was not the time 2 talk 2 her about it....yea well im in two minds now at this stage...break up with her or not....its so hard, i mean i love her so much, but shes hurt me alot...n well i dunno if she told me about those things just out of conversation, or she actually wanted 2 hurt me...i know if i break up with her, im gonna regret it, big time....and i know that in years time, watever decision im gonna make, im gonna look back and wonder, wat would life have been like if i didnt break up with her/break up with her....its hard
