Kind of a serious topic.

In the events of the past few weeks, I've discovered things that make me feel strange. In essence, I believe I've lost the ability to love another human being, besides my family.

Anyone who has had their heart broken knows that feeling you get in your body when your heart is broken. I've been feeling that feeling every night for the past three weeks. I know it isn't my average depression I get because I can still have fun and enjoy myself.

I know that you can have you heart broken. Is it possible to have your heart die in the sense of never being able to love someone romantically again? I've always had a generic hatred for people. People who don't attempt to get to know me or fuck that chance up don't get too close to me.

I'm getting more and more worried about this because I have a friend trying to set me up with someone she knows. She sounds like my type of girl. Likes the music I like. Has the physical attributes that I find attractive. I'm mostly worried that, if my heart has given up on romance, if I should pursue it further to see if my heart might find out what it's like to love again.

I know I probably sound like a giant bleeding vagina, but if all of y'all have an opinion/feedback, please share.

 

You sound like a giant bleeding vagina to me........

 

I realize that. Hence the statement.

 

It takes time. Let it flow.

 

Well, I had a seroius relationship from 14-17. To be honest.. I don't ever think I could feel the way I did ever again.. but, you never know.. It still pisses me off when I think about it.. how stupid I was... But you live and learn right? I'm sending postive thoughts your way brother.

 

haha giant bleeding vagina thats funny....

naw man, there is a good chance you will be able to love again. I was there at one point...not thinking I cuold lover anyone else, however I didn't have that generic hate you descrie yourself as having. But heartbreak is one of the most difficult things to experince as well as one of the most painful. I took me a good 7 months to get completely over my first heartbreak.

Honestly time is the best remedy, and complete separation from that person. I'd say try it with the new girl, sounds awesome ya know? When i was gettin over that ex I mentioned above, the best things that helped ease my heart and mind were just being around people of the opposite sex. I wouldn't even tuoch a guy or attempt to get with him, but just the social interaction helped. I don't think this is the advice you are seeking but I'm putting it out there.

but yeah I do think you will be able to love again, but you will have to learn to allow yourself to be vulnerable again...thats gonna be the hard part i think... good luck man

 

haaa haha

 

wish you the best of luck man

 

One most love their self (in a non vain way) before they can truly love another. Therefore loving yourself constitutes knowing that you'll be able to love another if the opportunity presents itself. So go for it, you have nothing to lose and perhaps some "love" to gain? I mean sure you may be disappointed with the way things turn out in the end, especially if that "love" relationship develops between the two of you and things go bad. However I can pretty much guarantee you that it's better to have tried and failed (even though it wouldn't even be "failing" at anything if things went badly in your view) than to have not tried at all. Just as Mark Twain said (sorry if you guys are sick of my Twain quotes), "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowline. Sail away from the sage harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." (Sailing is a love of mine, so maybe that's also why I love this specific quote)

 

when the time is right, pursue it again. Until then I send some positive vibes your way and much love brotha man

 

don't force yourself into another relationship if you don't feel ready for it brah.. its only gonna end badly and well.. hurt you even more.. just give it time.. time heals all wounds

 

Thanks all for the kind words. I do love myself. Not in a vain way. I'm more of a narcisist.

after thinking about it, it's not the I've lost the ability to love, I've gained a more powerful feeling of hatred.

*shurg* time heals all wounds. Until then, I'm going on a scarlet monastary run.

 

I support this statement.


Kiddin dude, Im a ''hater'' to. I dont get along with a lot of people

 

no..more making me lol's....

 

at times i wish i still had WoW on my laptop.. but then again.. im glad i don't lol...

 

just give it time man and hang out w/ this chick you'll forget about that "heart break" in no time. You'll soon realize it's stupid to dwell on it and it's better to move on live your life

 

well i'm kind of in the same boat as you except rather than not being able to get close to girls, i get close too easily. but if i had to guess then i'd say it might seem hard to get close at first but if they truely are the right girl for you then they will spice up your heart again and you'll feel it return. love's a powerful force. just tryina help out man

 

damn you got me in the mood. figure's my accounts frozen and i needa renew it...guess i'm goin on later.

 

I know how you feel dude. It takes time to feel like you can love again after having your heart broken, but it's still very possible. As others have said, you can't rush it or force it and you just have to let the feelings come naturally. Just keep doing your thing and, when someone catches your eye and seems like someone who should be in your life, then you should pursue it.

 

^ i agree, he has it right
Dont worry eventually it wont hurt,