So I realized today

If you are concerned of how I 'present myself' you can finish college, take care of a house, two dogs, cook dinner for a house guest who does not even offer to help you with the dishes after you cooked dinner and drove 200 miles on your day off . Then go ahead and see what your patience level is and how you 'present yourself'. I don't think you would 'present yourself' too well and I bet your patience would be run down for awhile, especially when that person questioned how you presented yourself.
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If other people are doing stupid things like, not washing their leeks properly, you should tell them because I don't like getting mouthfuls of dirt in my dinner. If more people talked down on each other, humans would be better.

 

I am not sure if I talk down to people or not....I'm thinking everyone does at some point..
I know when someone is talking down to me, either I laugh, make a joke about it or act like I am not aware that they are and let them continue to do it cause it's amusing and doesn't really bother me...

 

Maybe before you do it for them I would talk to them and tell them your idea on what else they could do to their projects. That way they are part of the decision making and you don't come across as not letting them be part of their project. They'll feel like they were a success with it.

I'm very sensitive to others feelings. Overly sensitive. It's been a good thing and a curse at the same time. Having children has made this even more challenging.

 

there's a reason why i don't go out for things like that. i have ZERO patience. i know this about myself, understand that i have approximately 5 to 10 minutes of attention span for things that bore me, and figure out a way to work around it.

for example, kai has to read for twenty minutes a day for school. i can manage to listen for a couple minutes, actively. so, since it takes me twenty minutes to drive kai to school, i have her read in the car and PRETEND to listen. she can read just fine, she doesn't need my help very often.

as for art, i'm not artistic, so i don't bother messing with it. but i HATE cleaning up the mess. i really loved when dave would bring home a huge roll of paper and we could just throw it out in the yard and hand the kids some paint and let them go at it.

 

wow....wtf!?
seriously...i'm done

 

lol.

 

Hahahaha! Poor Fitzy. Dude you should have offered to help wash the dishes.

 

don't bring up dishes. it might give him PTSD style flashbacks to a bad day i had a while back.

 

You know I never allow my guests to help clean up and if they persist I tell them they can clean the toilet (which usually shuts them up.)

 

my mother would be ASHAMED AND APPALLED if i allowed guests to clean up. it's just not done in my family. it makes me so uncomfortable. hospitality is holy in my mom's house.

 

I make sure there are no dishes involved when I have guests... Therefore everyone wins...

Actually when I do have guests I make them do everything.. I kid, I kid..

not really..

Nah, I'm pretty nice..

Haha, that was funny just typing that statement...

 

It's the same here. I don't even expect my guests to offer. She should have used paper plates.

 

wait, i just got lost. what's going on?

 

nvm, i just saw that dishes part in lynsey's rant.

 

fuck it...

i did help put some of my dishes in the dishwasher on a couple occasions. i did rinse off the plates and bowls i brought to the sink

i did get Murphy to go outside on TWO separate occasions when he wouldn't listen to you and ran away from you

i have no clue where you got the idea that you can attack me. you made the kid sad, not I. it was you and your actions that put the sad look on the kids face. thats what this thread is about and your realization that you talk down to people...not me and what i did or didn't do when i visited.
get a grip

 

i really wish the popcorn smilie still worked.

 

I would def not have allowed him to help me clean-up, but I was also raised to always offer when I am visiting someone elses house and I would def have walked up and put my dishes in the sink instead of leaving them on the coffee table.
I just feel like I was really taken for granted and it pisses me off.
-Lynsey

 

You did when Andy was home, not me.
You expect women to do everything for you, it's obvious. I am not that kind of woman.

 

:leaving:

I thought you guys were friends.. why the hate...come on, friends don't fight, friends hug..

:grouphug:...

don't fight over dishes...