and i'm kind of let down. i have a huge anal fetish... been playing anally with myself since my early teens and always love it. i usually use dildoes/butt plugs/etc and nothing gets me harder than anal and prostate play. so after years of fantasizing about it (and my wife giving me the ok ) i manage to find someone on craigslist who is fairly normal and hook up with him at his place. so i'm nervous as hell when i get there, so i figure the best way is to just get to it. i tell him to take his pants off, and i do the same. i sit him on his bed and start blowing him. he's got a perfect penis for my first time, long (8") but fairly thin (much thinner than mine). so i suck him until he's good and hard, then we switch and i get on the bed. lubes me up, works a couple fingers in and gets me ready. he put a condom on and works his way inside of me.... and it feels good but not great. and it really doesn't get a lot better. we try a couple different positions... the only one we really didn't try was me on my back. eventually he comes, and i never even got hard! i end up stroking myself off afterwards while he plays with my balls... and i never even got really hard while doing that! we clean up and i leave. overall i'm pretty disappointed. i don't know if it was just nerves... i didn't feel nervous once i started going down on him. so i don't know. blah. i'm disappointed. maybe i'll just have my wife use a strapon. anyone else ever gone through something similar? thanks for reading... -andy
Maybe it was the fact that you were with another person other than your wife. I remember once when I broke up with a girlfriend of six years, and a year later we got back together to have sex... But for some reason my body just wasn't having it. Not that I wasn't attracted to her or turned on by the moment. It's as if my cock just shut down during that moment and absolutely refused to cooperate in the least bit. Needless to say, that was the last time I saw her. So maybe you were going through the same thing psychologically, and couldn't get past that mental barrier. It happens. Maybe what you need is to see the same person on a regular basis. That way your mind will get adjusted to him and that barrier will fade over time, to allow you to be more sexually stimulated.
Mabey it is the fact that you were with a guy and you are probably quite straight some straight people are up for a bit of gay action but when it gets to it it doesn't worck how they expected it. I thinck it is probley better how you sugested it to do it with your wife using a strapon.
i think u felt bad about not bein with ur wife that happined to me with ma first time with a guy and i couldnt get in to it also u didnt realy have feelings for this guy he was really just a dildo with a mouth to u and it didnt fill u
i think you might be right. i've never really felt much attraction to other guys. like i had zero interest in kissing the guy or anything. oh well. glad i tried it. otherwise i never would have known.
At least you tried, but I wouldn't ever try again. Maybe there wasn't chemistry between you two guys.... I mean you did just meet. For me it takes a little while to get comfortable with a person, even if my goal is just sex. I still need to know what this person is about.
Unless we are talking lust at first sight, I don't think I could have sex with someone I just met. At least not homosexual sex. I have had homosexual experience with three guys. All of them I had known and hung around with for anywhere from six months to two year before the sexual encounter happened. Two of them are heterosexual, but open to the idea of sex play. Anyway, I too have to be comfortable with the person I am going to play with.
Hey Andy: IMHE, the CL scenario you have just described usually works for the guys who are both unattached sexually and emotionally: AND have been previously conditioned to enjoy anonymous sex without any emotional chemistry, vibe, etc. going on among the participants. If you live in an environment which cherishes the notion that having sex with someone should come after long, protruded, convoluted, expensive and time-consuming dating drama, your attempt to dart into the world of quick, easy, anonymous sex-for-sex sake has been rather doomed from its onset. Despite all the video instruction we have all received generously provided by the online porn producers, real life encounters ARE always different, and usually far more complex than thier online porn surogates. Dudes topping in porn are either all very endowed (as in both long and THICK) or are precisely what the bottom guy wants them to be. The CL dudes are either long and thin or short and thick or whatever, but rarely meet up our porn inspired and generated expectations. Most of the guys good enough to be porn stars are either the porn stars or are staying away from the CL since they get who they want without it, too. Last but not least, you went to suck off and get pounded by another guy with the permission of your wife. Generous as this may have been on her part, the very notion that she granted you possibly a one-time pass only; the notion that you are not a FREE dude to explore your sexuality as you find fit but that you live in a committed relationship where you both need and have to ask for your partner's approval to go and have some fun on the side, must have put a huge damper on the whole experience... KD
Yes, I know what you are saying. I believe my fantasies are better than the act itself. And I have had some experiences and enjoyed it. But still. I can identify with this also. Guys don't really turn me on. Sex turns me on. LOL In the experiences I have had, at the start I had no desire for intimacy with my playmate. However, once we were into the physical experience of mutual sexual stimulation, intimacy seem to just happen. In fact my wife was a willing participant in the activities.
I would chalk it up to nerves or that your wife wasnt a part of it. I have lived in open relationships for years so I have had plenty of experience with sex out of the relationship. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt.. sometimes it is because I am not attracted to the person in the least sometimes I psych myself up way too much and I am just waiting to let myself down. But I am gonna be honest with you.. for my first try as a bottom.. there is no way in hell I am going to pic an eight in guy. LOL I have been talkin with a guy that is 5.5.. that seems fair to me I dont know. maybe if you include your wife somehow.. but for me.. my first time as a bottom I am not real thrilled with my girl being there for some reason.. who knows
