Do you as a hippie think that a open relationship is the right thing? Do you never think that your partner is unfaithful? When I have found Mr right guy I will probably not want to be with other persons. Or that´s that I hope. If you want to be with other persons at the same time, is it really true love then? Of course you´ll might think that other persons look good, but do you really want to have sex with them or so? peace love and understanding
Well, I'm not really a hippie first of all, so I don't know if this question applies to me. I will say that I have been able to stay faithful in a relationship that lasted 3 and a half years. But 3 and half years is not long at all when you think about spending the rest of your life with someone. I would hope that when I finally meet "Mr. Right" I will want to be with him and only him forever, but I think it's completely natural for humans to want to be with multiple partners. I mean look at Bonobo Apes, our closest living relatives, they fuck like crazy! So.. I don't really know the answer. I think it's probably different for every person.
I think sex and love are two different things. I also think that you can love more than one person at a time. That being said, I am completely monogamous. I would never want to cause friction that doesn't need to be there. I'm not secure enough to want my man to be with another....though sometimes I think it would be kinda hot. Not up to opening the doors on that though.
Of course you can answer even though you arnt hippie, all different kind of opinions are welcome :-D Yeah, its natural but the humans have more developed brains on the other hand. But the monkeys have a lot of sex in periods when they know that the female can become pregnant or? I mean its more emotions involved in human relationships. hmmm. mariecstasy; for me sex and love can be different kind of things, but it dependence on what you choose, if you want to have sex even though you arnt in love. So you mean that you can love somebody as much as you love your true love? For me you can love a lot of organism´s but on different kind of way =)
Actually the interesting thing about bonobo apes is that they do not only have sex to reproduce, they have sex mostly for pleasure. They have sexual relationships that are not only male-female, but also male-male, female-female, even adult-child. They are extremely fascinating. If you ever get the chance to observe some at a zoo or otherwise I would highly recommend it. They are amazing creatures, even with all the sex talk aside. Kind of makes you wonder how we are supposed to be naturally, right...?
Ohh, now I learnt something new =) How do they now that theyre doing it for pleasure? Cant it be a lot of different kind of reasons? Ahah, probably we´re more meant to have sex with more than one. Do the monkeys have a special partner or are they together all of them? It feels a little bit unnecessary to choose one special if you are with others at the same time?
I've been in both open relationships and monogomous relationships. I think it all depends on the situation....I absolutely believe that you can be in love with someone and still sleep with other people, I also believe that you can be happy being with only one person, and I also believe that it's very possible to be in love with more then one person at a time.....I think it all depends on your situation and what feels right for you.
They do have sex for other reasons, such as releasing tension, socialization (acceptance among females) and conflict resolution. And as far as I know they do not have one sexual partner, they all have sexual relationships with one another, and also with members of outside groups. Also, they are apes, not monkeys, if that makes any difference They are pretty damn interesting and I think if you did a simple search on google you would find some great resources, probably with a lot more information than I have. If you're interested, that is!
Apes in general are not monkeys at all. On the topic I would say that being unfaithful would mean breaking a tie that you and your partner bind together, going behind the back of the other and doing whatever and not being able to tell them for fear of the consequences. That is more of an unfaithfulness to your self than anything, the same as not acting on your instincts even after you have thought it out and instincts still appeal to you. Fuck does it matter, you know if you would hurt somebody by fucking around then don't. Break it off, if you have to, but love who your body tells you to love. Love might just run off on you for being unfaithful to it while you are worried about that special someone who doesn't understand what eternal love is. It is the Great Great Great Grandfather of love, the one with all the long never ending stories of the love that has coarsed through the vains of eternal love, been spat out of the organs of blissful unjudged eternal love and will continue by showing its self to you and not worrying about your reaction to it. Just flowing from here to there while you watch and twist and try to get it whilst it is giving its self to you so willingly that you might even see it as a trap or a trick, it is real and you must believe so.. have faith as they say, that what you are doing is right for you, you will know because you wont wonder if you had done it different would you feel better inside, why would you want it any other way you would have to say if you had done what you wanted and done it with respect and love and manners and careful objectivity. *End BS Rant#$
Don't know if I qualify as a hippie or not, even though I've been called one as far as the question though, I don't believe that one way is the way for everyone; even if it may be the most commonly practiced in this society. the most common thing you see in society now( or at least it appears that way) is monogamous relationships, but I believe that other relationship types can be just as, or even more secure than monogamous relationships. I don't believe that just because someone loves and is committed to one person only, that that means they automatically stop finding others attractive or sexually appealing. I do fully believe that someone can be in love with and truely committed to one person, but still have sexual relations with another; because I think sex and love are seperate. I also believe that a polyamorous relationship ( where you love more than one person) can be just as secure as a monogamous one, but it wouldn't be for me; I wouldn't want to be in love with more than one person at once- or have the person I'm in love with be.
this one hit's home for me. my whole life i was told that monogamy was the right way to live. this is not necessarily true though, i've denied my attraction for others because of this taboo. until a few months ago when i finally admitted to my husband that i was attracted to someone else. now we are swingers and are enjoying life a whole lot more. sex is just sex it's meant to be fun. just take everything at face value and it can work
I'm 23 yrs old and dating the first person I ever loved. I'm female, he's male and we're both bisexual. This is the only open relationship I've ever been in and I think it works out this way. I'm not saying every relationship I'll be in will be open but since we're bi, we have a strange understanding and we can talk about it. Most guys think it's so hot that I'm bi and they just don't understand cause they're not bi but there is a difference between sex and love and my b/f and I trust each other very much. We're always honest and it's been 2 yrs now and him and I never fight. We're always happy together and we still get those butterfly feelings one gets in the early stages of a relationship. I feel like we never get bored with each other. Our relationship isn't based just on sex either. We have the most amazing connection.
I'm 23 yrs old and dating the first person I ever loved. I'm female, he's male and we're both bisexual. This is the only open relationship I've ever been in and I think it works out this way. I'm not saying every relationship I'll be in will be open but since we're bi, we have a strange understanding and we can talk about it. Most guys think it's so hot that I'm bi and they just don't understand cause they're not bi but there is a difference between sex and love and my b/f and I trust each other very much. We're always honest and it's been 2 yrs now and him and I never fight. We're always happy together and we still get those butterfly feelings one gets in the early stages of a relationship. I feel like we never get bored with each other. Our relationship isn't based just on sex either. We have the most amazing connection.
