Just about 10min ago me and my fiance of 3yrs was downstairs and our 2yr old son Gage wanted to go outside and play with the neighbor, I told him no and he then went on to hit me. My fiance out of no where grabs his arm and spanks his butt 3 times very hard, hard enough to probably hurt me. I am so fucking pissed at him. I said what the fuck did you spank him that hard for and he was like "oh now you think im abusing my child?" I said well look how hard you hit him. That is uncalled for. He got all pissed and was like "ok im not going to disipline anymore!" I was like there are other ways to spank him and 3 times is too much. So he ran out the front door and lit a cigarette. I stayed inside with Gage and am fucking pissed and fuming. What do yal think about this situation am I in the wrong for getting pissed??
What would you have done to the chile? Like spank him or just say that you should not do that? I would have spanked him too, but not real, real hard, but enough to get my point across. I have 3 children and they have gotten spanked....
im not against spanking and i do spank him once and he usually gets the point across, but i thought he just spanked him too many times and to hard. Gage cryed for probably 2-4min and my fiance was like "look hes not even crying any more it didnt hurt him."
The 3 times is not to many..If he just went on and on.....but if he hit him to hard thats different. Ya'll need to just talk it and you need to be on the same level as far as the children go....its so much easier if you are....
Three times is three times too many, imo. Your 2 year old hit you, so you tell him not to hit by hitting? First of all, a 2 yo is just LEARNING. They don't have impulse control. You need to teach him, hitting is wrong, touch nice and redirect. Hitting a child is abuse, imo.
I agree 100%. 2 year olds learn from their surroundings. If you hit them no matter how hard or light, then they will hit you back.
Sometimes spanking is the right dicipline, other times it is not. Spanking Gage for hitting you, was only telling him that you "hit" somebody when you don't get your way. At his age, its best to get down to eye level with him, look him in the eye, and tell him what he did was not acceptable, and that you will not let him hit you again. He's old enough for time-out. Or take away a favorite toy for the rest of the day. Spanking can sometimes encourage aggressive behavior in children later in life. Trust me, I had three boys and I'm reaping what I sowed now. Spanking as a main dicipline does not work, but taking away something that they really enjoy does (toy, movie etc.) Good luck to you.
I have a two year old as well. We don't hit her, because she learns through imitation. Why would I hit her to get my way, and then try to teach her not to hit. Which is going to resound more? My actions or my words? Two year olds do really well with redirection, comiseration, and just plain telling them no. Moire asks for "lo-gert" a lot. It goes a lot like this for me, when I redirect her: "Lo-gert?" "No. It's not time for yogurt. Would you like a banana, instead?" "Lo-gert?" "No, Moire. If you're hungry, we can eat -this- or -that- but it's not time for yogurt. Do you want some apples?" "Lo-gert?" "Moire, let's get some water and go play with the easel." or "Hey, Moire. Do you want to take a shower/watch a show/play with a toy?" It takes a few more moments of concentration, but usually by the third option, she's tired of asking and wanders off. Or, with commiserating, I just agree with her when she throws a tantrum. "BAD! BAD! BAD MOMMA! Moire wants YOGURT! Momma has no yogurt! Bad! Angry! You're MAD! MAD! MADDDDDDDDDDDDD!" It shocks her that I understand her, agree with her, and the loudness gets her too. It shocks her enough so she loses steam, and then I can redirect her or she, again, wanders off. Sometimes, I just can't exert the energy to commiserate. At that point, I just keep telling her no, and when she throws a tantrum, I'll plop her into her room. She can throw a tantrum but I don't have to hear it. But hitting isn't a wise or useful parenting tool when it comes to a two year old.
