I have a girl friend who is very pretty and sexy and she knows it. But she very often inject that fact into her conversation. We can talk about going to bars, and she says "I don't mind going alone. If I sit down somewhere there is always a guy that is willing to sit down", or she finds those "cups" at the amusement parks is only fun because the guys will twist the cup she is in a lot because they like her, etc. It's not like she boasts it, she just mentions it indirectly and subtly, quite often. Why is this? Does she feel a need for verification from me, about her looks? We had sex some time ago but she kind of regrets it. Before that she showed me nude artistic and erotic pictures of her. We've been quite close for some time now and we've been in the toilet preparing marijuana before and I say "it feels strange being in the women's toilet here with you", and she doesn't think so at all. But now after we had sex she says the same thing, and she almost never feels uncomfortable. She has been taking off her clothes and changed in front of me before in the bathroom, but now she says being there with me feels weird/strange? I just told her "Get used to it" and smiled, but I really don't understand what she is thinking. She seems confused about me... And if I do the same thing as she does, tell/brag subtly about popularity among the opposite sex, she kind of jokes it away or something as if it didn't really happen or anything. Is she threathened by my sexuality or something? And if so, is this because she likes me but tries to stay away? Or is it because she recognize I have a sexuality but doesn't like me (which I kind of doubt since she has flirted so much with me and we've had sex). I really like her and she likes me, so if I could get some outside perspective, that is nice. Because I would really know what she is thinking. Thoughts?
If she mentions her self more than once it's narcissism. Don't feed her monkey, stay away from her let her find out that looks are not everything. She might find comfort in an individual who is captivated by her, she is probably costantly gossiped about and is aware of this. Most people tend to be turned off by people who are into themselfs.
She once talked about having eating disorders way back. So maybe it is not just self-love, but an obsession in regards to looks?
Sounds pretty arrogant, attractive people don't need to, or usually just don't constantly re-affirm it. Though I've got a friend who constantly talks about how well he does with the ladies, and he is attractive, so I guess some people just like talking about how good they are, which isn't an attractive quality.
I can see how this would get to you, being exposed to it often, but if you step back you'll see that it's normal and innocent. Nothing deep needs to be read into it, she could just honestly be aware and realistic about her looks. Or she could be narcisistic. Big deal.
