Parents beating their Gay child

Hello! I have some good advice and some bad advice.

Good advice – send him a belated Christmas gift anyway.

Bad advice – The father needs a punch in the head.

 

It's not as bad advice as you might think...

 

Agreed.

 

This is very sad, me being a trained Samaritan here in England, I hear these stories almost every week.

If you want, PM me and I will send you my email address. I will be very happy to listen to this young man. Sadly I can't give him any advice as I know nothing about laws regarding abuse in the US.

But please know, as a trained counsellor I must and will keep everything confidential, but I will at least be a independent listener.

 

He's 17 and his mom beats him - what the hell?

He should just grab her arms when she tries again and scream at her about how sick she is and how she's got no right and no REAL reason to do that stuff.

 

Wow, if he's a guy, and he only weights 100 lbs, I'm guessing he has an eating disorder unless he's like 5' tall.

 

Some secrets shouldn't be kept. Child abuse must be reported within 5 years of the child turning 18 for the police to be able to do anything about it here in the US. (At least, I'm pretty sure that's what the statute of limitations is.) Do you know where he lives? If so, you could look up the number for his local police station and report it. I'm pretty sure you can keep the tip confidential. Other than that, there's not much you can do, exept be there for him. If you do report it, the friend may be angry that you broke your promise, but it would have been for his own good, even if he can't see it. I hope this helps.

 

Wow! That is a disturbing story. Ignorant and abusive parents can destroy a child. On the other hand, your friend had some inner fortitude that allowed him to be honest and courageous. Hopefully that prevails.

The only thing that stands out and troubles me is a 13-year-old declaring their sexuality - be it straight, bi, or gay. As a parent, I would be very concerned and somewhat protective. However, I would never be abusive or judgmental. Unfortunately, parents don't get owner's manual. It seems a really sad situation.

The best advice to you is to remain his friend and find ways to ensure he knows you are standing by him.

 

im jw 2 years on from the first post nearli, has this been sorted out? did he come live with u?

 

thats disgusting. it still amazes me how much hate people are capable of perpetuating

 

once uve bein hurt liek that from a parent u cant ever really be a "kidd" agian it steals ur inocence and the people who do it should all be slautered