Asking girls for their number

I have an issue here and I could really use some help from somebody who has EXPERIENCE in this, all you people who mean good but have not done it please don't reply or give advice on what you "think would work".

Anyways, I am a 20/male and I get hit on a fair amount, and just in general have LOTS of opportunities in various scenarios to get girls. ANYWAYS, my issue is that I do not know how to approach a girl verbally with an advance. Like I am not talking lame ass pick up lines or anything childish like that, I mean like there's a girl, I want her number, and yet I don't know how to word it.

Is it good enough to just go up and say "Hi my name is ___, can I get your number?" Or is that to bland and upfront? I just don't know, anyone who has done or said something to that effect, how did it go, is that enough or not even close?

 

you need more discussion between introduction and getting number. getting the nubmer usually indicates that the conversation is coming to a close, and you want a way to follow up. small talk, deep talk, whatever seems appropriate with that woman

 

Well okay that's understandable but then here is my question, many of my opportunities do not really permit much time for any real level of conversation, so I need a strategy, albeit a viable one preferably, for situations where I don't have time nor does the girl for a real convo, I need a quick in and out selection of words, understandably that's not ideal, but that is what I am in need of.



Not just that, but my first proposal of words, its not obviously ideal in many respects, but could it likely succeed if the girl already had interest in me to begin with?

 

HAY man just ask,if they say no or walk of there loss right? anyway id want to just be asked,it shows you got balls man and there will be time for small talk later!!!

 

ughh I need some advice on what to say, doesnt any1 have anything?

 

ask them if they give good head. That always works. If they laugh then at least they have a sense of humor.

 

yea thats gonna happen..., really though, considering all the "advice" on these forums, not a single person has any good, quick vocab for getting a girls number?

 

ok, since you dont have much opportunity to have a conversation with a girl before you get her number, tell her that. Right before you leave or she leaves, be like, "man, I really wanna talk to you some more, so, can I call you sometime/can I get your number?".

It really is that easy, Ausin and every other guy out there, as just asking a girl for her number.

 

Or just give her your number.....

 

That could set a dangerous precedent.

 

You know its so ironic, of course your right, it is just a matter of asking an outrageously simple question, but the irony also is that its one of the hardest things to do for most people, including me, so it really is a double-edged sword in a sense. It is both insanely easy and insanely hard at the same time. I wish it was easy for me, but it isn't, not even sort-of, so my dilemma goes on...

 

although, still no one on this forum has been able to provide what I have asked for +)

what im asking for is some methods to which I can get a girls number, in say, a 30 second/1 minute period, so far no one has been able to offer anything that could help



EDIT: like okay, is this good enough, ? (To group of girls) Hey im ____, whats yalls names? Cool cool, hey (girl who im interested in name) I was wondering if I could get your number?

Is that okay yall think?

 

No. take it form me. A girl. I am instantly turned off. I dont like a guy to jump right into the number exchange. No way. Gotta warm me up. Gotta give me a reason for me to give you my number. Even if it is just a 3 minute conversation. Something to go on. I personally do not give my number out to any guy who asks for it, even if he is cute. And no girl with a right mind does the same as well. Your method up there is a definate NO.

Like I said....chat her up a bit. Give her something to go on. "He's cute, he's funny, we like the same music/movies/whatevs..." You and your boys are leaving wherever it is you are, say "hey...gotta go, but I really like talking with you. Can I get your number?"

It. is. that. easy. Trust me.

 

Dangerous, how?? No mare dangerous than a girl giving a random guy her number.....but the girl has the upper hand, which is why I prefer this method

 

one last thing.....I have a type that I like, and I know a LOT of girls like this, too. I like the guy who doesnt seem like he's trying. I like the guy who comes across as not giving a damn. I like mysterious and illusive. If you wanna go that route, just be cool and let the girls come to you.

 

well yea dolly I understand that this "quick method" is not your piece of cake, but I know there are guys who it has and does work for, so I really am sorta stunned that there is not anyone on these boards who has done this or has experience with it. Again, I understand its not "ideal", but life is not ideal either.

 

Ahh this whole boy getting the girl thing is such a run around the woods with sometimes no destination and no one ever knows where the starting point is. *sigh* .... um, Well I can talk and all that and I make girls laugh so i just get their number after a 2 second conversation .... not wanting to brag. So you don't want my advice.

DON'T talk about yourself. If she asks you a question about you make sure the first thing you do is put the spotlight back on her after you answer the question.
Smile and nod.

 

ya but what do I say god!?!?

 

i just talk to girls. if we both want to have another conversation then numbers are exchanged, if not, then not. if you want the magic words thats going to get every girl you meet naked, then you gotta give me some cash or somethin.

 

i think the reality is prolly something along the lines of if there were guys here that could get a girl in a minute or so, they wouldn't be on this site talking about it heh, I think thats why nobody can really give me anything here, cuzz theres nobody that has achieved whats being requested, so its no biggie I reckon