My Heart Hurts.

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Enraged Angel, Sep 4, 2008.

  1. Enraged Angel

    Enraged Angel Banned

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    It's killing me knowing the person I am in love with does not want to be with me. The girl he's "interested in" seems nice... but it hurts talking to her about this stuff. It makes it so much more real.

    I'm so depressed it's not funny... I have almost no appititte. I was only really able to eat when I was.. smoking... but last night I went to eat dinner and completely lost my appitite. I look really unheathy... I need something to keep my mind of my failed relationship, but I just don't know.

    It's so hard, and I don't know how to cope. :(
     
  2. stalk

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    Detach yourself,
    this connection is not healthy.

    Give it time and see what happens.

    Until then you gotta be good to yourself, sister
     
  3. Enraged Angel

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    Yes, I know.

    I've never felt so lonely and unattractive. It's made my self confidence lower... It's so hard. I've never delt with being dumped before.
     
  4. Aprilshower

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    Sorry to hear this guy is affecting you. I assume he has clarified that he doensn't want to be with you. If so then sod him. It's his loss and you deserve better anyhow. Try not to mope around and spend hours thinking about this guy. It's easy to think yourself into a downward spiral. The worst thing you can do is dwell. That's what I used to do whenever I got rejected from people. The sooner you accept the situation the better, I know it's hard. Keep yourself busy with friends and other things in your life. Take up a hobby even. It will help and you will get over him quicker!


    Best of luck! Xx
     
  5. stalk

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    Redirect the love
     
  6. Enraged Angel

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    Redirect? How?
     
  7. stalk

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    Love is a real physical thing
    you can't let all your love drain into someone who's not even open to it
    it just gets wasted.
    Redirect it into your plants, your family, friends, cooking, art--

    that kind of redirection.

    The love will recycle
    and that is healing.
     
  8. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    I'll take your love :) I'll clean it and send it back for free
     
  9. Asswoman

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    Iknowhow it feels tolove someone and they not love you back the same.One thing I have got out of my break up. Is don't let him know you are hurting. Always If you talk to him still is be happy. You need to go out with friends have fun. Keep yourself busy, Thats What i did. Try after 11 years with someone. I know how you feel. Not eating or sleeping. Blaming yourself. I lost almost 40 lbs.I still have my moments. WE ALL DO! I take sleeping pills to sleep at night now. I look and feel DAMN good about myself. But one thing to remember is You need to be happy first before your relationship can. If he don't love you then you deserve someone who does love you. He will more likely come crawling back one day. The saying goes " You never know what you have till you lose it." Your heart will heal with time. It just all depends on you. Hope it works out for you. Take care of yourself. It will get better.
     
  10. mistermike

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    I wish I lost a bunch of weight when my wife tossed me out a few weeks before the holidays, for no specific reason, only to find her back with her ex.
    But, I didn't do any positive re-direct. I redirected to pizza and ice cream. I'd eat till it hurt, and then eat some more. It's a wonder I'm not enormous. But 260# is no welter-weight.
    All I can say is, beware of negative thought patterns. You can get negative patterns running on autopilot, in the background, running you down, without realizing it. They can go on for months and months, sapping your life.
     
  11. Enraged Angel

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    Awww, thanks. :)
     
  12. Acid Man

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    Just start abusing oxycontin.

    It's what I did
     
  13. narcissist

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    Yeah, you need to keep your distance and heal. It's the only way. You will get better, if you give yourself that space and time. You never know what the future has instore for you. Til then why don't you catch up with some old friends or family members, go out to eat especially. Or try new restaurants or cafes until you get your appetite back.

    This will pass, dear.



    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."
     
  14. BornFree

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    im also dealing with a recent break up, the woman is still in my life alot, we turned out to be amazing friends in the end, i think thats helping alot....but at times its hard to get over things, shes still presently in my life yet i miss her more than anything.
     
  15. new-guy

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    exercise go to the gym one it helps relax and keep ur mind off things plus u can meet new ppl and dont fall in to and bad habits me gf and i broke up for three weeks ( i know big deal ) and i sucked and we both kind a fell apart and i ate and shat around for it i let the loss over take me. we got back to gather and well nvm anyway find a fun hobby like painting running or something that can help u interact with other ppl. i found a fun hobby during that time it was airsoft knida like paint ball it was fun i got to shot my friends and relax
     
  16. BornFree

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    wow, powerful. we need more advice like this. this really got to me :)
     
  17. Enraged Angel

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    The way things look there is no more me and him in the future, we've been fighting again lately, I just need to find something to redirect into. Not even to date someone, but to have someone to hang out with and laugh, make jokes. Just feel good with. That's what I really want in the long run, I believe, just to feel good about life.
     

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