Yay for the men at my school

yeah, WTH? i've heard girls say "i'm smaller and don't slap as hard and blah blah blah..." well, SWEETHEART, how would you feel if he only flailed at you as hard as you flail at him? you'd feel like you've been abused and you'd be RIGHT. how's it any different the other way?

yes, most men will have to be more careful, they are, typically, stronger and women's bones are in general smaller. it's basic physiology. but that's no excuse for women to go hitting their boyfriends and throwing things at them. HOW IS THROWING THINGS AT PEOPLE'S HEADS OKAY? anyone's head, for pete's sake.

 

AMEN!

I live next to a woman who does this...It hasn't gotten phsyical yet, but I wonder sometimes what I could do if it did...Call the cops? Or would they blow it off as just another "crazy woman" and a guy who can't "defend himself"?

NO ONE should be hitting, slapping, throwing things, belittling ANYONE except in actual self-defense...period. The emphasis on women as victims of violence is more because of the image we have of women as "smaller" or weaker (Although we do have less potential for developing muscle mass, this image is not always true.)

The white ribbon should stand for "anti-domestic violence" in general.

Having said that...still good to hear someone is standing up to violence in any form...Just wish it was more equal.

 

i was once cornered in a mans apt. i went there with a friend (not really turns out) and it was a setup to get he and i together. they left and i was alone with him and ended up being chased around. i picked up a lamp, pulled the chord and threw it at his head (even though i wasn't aiming) and left through the front door ... that he was blocking previously. he called me a *crazy *****.

 

of course i'm against voilence against men ... unless my own safety is at stake. i would have thought that was obvious.

 

Violence against women is a different problem because it is more prevalent. It is a true problem for all women. Men can be abused, and that is a problem for some men.

It comes down to power as well; men have the privilege. It does not matter beyond that. If I made a list of reasons I am privileged they would be things like I am a woman who identifies as a woman, I am white, I come from a decent background.

If a man answered those questions, his first privilege is he is a man. That is one step above me being a woman.

There are other inequalities that come into play that do not make it a black and white issue: race, class, sexual orientation are some easy ones to name.

However, the equation is simple : Power + Prejudice = Oppression.

So, in this case, violence against women stands on it own.

 

however the priveleged aren't men anymore, unless their physical strength makes them priveleged. the priveleged gender is women now. and violence against men is a very serious issue. http://www.batteredmen.com/gjdvdata.htm. also, women are considered the physically weaker sex and society as a whole, has a hard time fathoming that a man could be injured by a woman. if violence against women stands on it's own, so does violence against men.

it's interesting that you say he is a man and that is one step above me being a woman. what does that mean?

there are laws that have been on the books for years that people regularly exercise regarding race, class, gender and sexual orientation offering a level playing field for everyone. there are famous people from all of these categories to PROVE that hard work and determination are what produces success. to experience real life opression and discrimination TODAY, in america is a financial windfall in a lawsuit.