Crazy ass night, I need some help

Ok so I'm posting this here because I wanted to get off my chest whats been on my mind. First, let me give you a little back round. My boyfriend and I started off in a weird way. He met me at a party, and right when I walked in he was staring at me, so I said hello. We shook hands, and he wouldn't let go of mine, he was just looking at me and smiling and he was trying to talk to me the whole night. At the time though, I was seeing someone so I had to say no. Well we kept running into each other and it was the same thing every time. Eventually, I broke up with the guy I was seeing at that time, and my current boyfriend and I started talking more. Well, there was a misunderstanding, and I ended up being mad at him, and I didn't talk to him for four months, but the whole time, he was really trying to get me to give him a chance. So finally I did, and for the past 8 months we've had a great relationship. My family loves him, we see each other all of the time, we stay the night together almost every night and when we dont we talk to each other every night before we go to bed. Of course we had our little arguments, but things were pretty much perfect. So anyway, last night he was sleeping at me house and I had the worst feeling in the gut of my stomach that something wasn't right. We were laying in the bed and he was sleeping and as tired as I was, I couldn't sleep because something was telling me to check his phone. No, I dont snoop, and I dont go through peoples personal things, but I'm telling you, I physically felt my gut telling me I had to do it. I even ignored the feeling and tried to go to bed, but I couldn't. So anyway, I checked his phone and there were some messages that he had sent to a girl. The first one said "did he go to sleep yet? i want to come over and see you" and the second one said "come on please, send me a picture of that ass" and my heart just dropped, and I could feel my blood boiling. The last time I have been mad like that was almost 9 years ago. I couldn't help myself and I turned on the lights, whipped the covers off of him and told him to get the fuck out of my house. Of course by now he knows whats wrong and what happened, and of course he's been leaving me messages and all of that saying he's sorry but I just don't know what to do. As of now I'm thinking yeah, we're done but I also know that later I'm going to miss him and I may want to be with him. So basically, I'm asking for advice from you guys, it would really help me out.

 

typical bastard

let him go
(Unless you don't mind him sleeping around)

some guys just don't care about monogomy at all.
no matter what they tell you to your face.

 

I would say follow your instincts, they told you to check his phone, now go with your instincts and follow your heart!

 

I mean all of his past girlfriends have done really fucked up shit to him and everyone has told me he's never dated someone like me so it makes me think he's just too used to his routine of things and he didn't realize what he had. I dont want to justify what he did, but part of me thinks "Oh well maybe he wont do it again" but I dont want to be stuck in some fucked up relationship and I just dont know if I could trust him again. I'm still in shock about it

 

Just run and don't look back.

 

I just got home from work so I had all day to think about it and I guess that would be the best thing to do, its just hard. It's not like a planned break up, I thought shit was perfect you know?

 

You always will, I always did too. It never changes, don't put yourself threw that again.

 

Sounds like you just want to be with somebody. Don't know, but I gathered that you don't truly love this person. If that is the case, there will always be somebody else until you find that one true love. Keep trying and don't worry so much about it.

 

No actually, I really dont care too much about being with someone, I've never been much for relationships, thats why this sucks so bad because I actually tried for once. And I do love him, but now he just kind of ruined my trust for him. I've never had to deal with this before so I have no clue how I'm supposed to feel or what I should do.

 

You're only 20. There will be loads more opportunities. Don't be so down on yourself. Here's some practical advice: Leave him. If he cheated on you once, he'll do it again more then likely and there are plenty of guys who won't cheat on you out there. Don't think it was your fault that he cheated on you, because it wasn't. It was his choice. That shows bad character in him. Don't let this ruin you, either. Life throws many curve balls our way, but it is our job to rise above them and hopefully learn something about ourselves along the way. Difficult, especially if you feel you won't have another relationship, but let's be honest here, you're 20. You'll live to what, 80? 90? That's 70 years! You've only been alive 20 of a long and prosperous life. Are you going to waste it feeling sorry for yourself and depressed about a guy who probably wasn't worth the trouble to begin with?

As far as how you're supposed to feel, nobody can tell you that. However you feel is how you feel. Don't let others think for you, you know what to do. Just listen.

 

stop being a fucking pussy and get over him

 

only if things were that simple, retard.

 

You've got a good sense of judgement. By looking round here for the last few days I'm gonna say better than half of the people on here.
Be strong and do what you feel is right for you, whats gonna make you the most happy this time next year?

 

trust ur heart it lead u right once. i say but a shock collar on his nuts and see if he does it againlol
and its ur life and like ppl have said ur young and you will find another person. me personl i would have started a conversation with the person to see how deep the relationship with the other girl was
but i say try to look for some one else and so on

when i was over my gf house this one time a close female friend (a just friends friend lol)
was messing with me and sent messages like that and stupid crap almost ruined our relationship till they got to know each other better it was hell (personaly i thought it was funny as hell when th friend sent me the picture of her BF's dick that night. it i was thrown out.lol

 

Lol dippin i saw that and I was like damn...I dont think i'm being a pussy though, seeing as I havent cried once, I dont lay in bed all depressed, and honestly unless your a member of my family (or hipforums) you would never be able to tell something is wrong with me. Thank you everyone for the advice though, it has helped me and I figured out what I'm going to do. I'm going to STOP trying to figure out what to do lol. Like you guys said, I'm only 20 and there are plenty of people out there, and plenty of ex boyfriends, and I am going to have my heart broken many times. If we get back together and he cheats on me, oh well, I'll get over it. I also figured out that being scared of a broken heart is one of the worst things. You cant live your life being scared that someone will hurt you, you just have to teach yourself to get through it because it's not the end of the world, and you will get over it, just like I have. And this may not sound like something many of you might do, but I give people many chances, and the people I do love and care for, it is unconditional. If I get fucked over, I easily forgive, and honestly even though it does end up bad for me sometimes, I have the best karma, and tons of things just happen to work out for me and go my way without any effort on my part. So to sum it all up, I'm just going to do what makes me happy, and if it comes back to bite me in the ass, I'll get tougher jeans and keep on going haha.

 

Well sometimes you just don't really know who the other person is.

He could really mean it and want to be with you and not fuck up again. But if it happened once it's a decent chance it'll happen again. That's the truth with any behavior.

 

Do you think there's any chance you can trust him again? Do you know why he did it?

If you can't trust him it's not going to work.

It doesn't make sense to me - he was the one doing all the chasing and now he's the one fucking things up.

 

Isn't that classic male behavior, wants something till they get it then they dont want it anymore

 

I say you make him earn your trust if you even consider taking him back ever again. Someone told me that there is someone out there for everyone, you may have thought that he was the right one at the time, but now it just might be time to move on. There is more than one person for you out there but you have to go through a few to reach that point. If it was me in your situation and i loved this guy to death i MIGHT give him a 2nd chance, i just believe in 2nd chances, but on the other hand if you do give him a 2nd chance....be careful. You will know if it's meant to be or not, sometimes you just have to take a risk

 

Leave!!,
No doctoring that up. You will have suspicion forever and ever now. That's no kind of relationship at all. Walk away.