So your life has being going well....

Even though you're sick, you're accomplishing more than you could have ever hoped to with your miniscule amount of energy. You don't call your friends, but you don't care because everything is simple. You are clear minded. You can deal with all the pain you feel like a buddhist monk. You are becoming mindful, even joyful. Nature is getting its shine back. You are happy to be alive and that is all.

Then someone returns to your life that shatters the perfect little sanctuary you have built in your head and threatens unintentionally to destroy all the progress you have made over the last few months. You want to ignore them forever, but they need you and you might be the only person that can help them.

What to do.

 

compassion is the greatest human emotion, help them..


I know I shouldn't sound serious with name like A-Bear's-Vagina but sometimes it is nessicary

 

I use to let people alter and affect my mind frame through out life, but now I don't let others alter my feelings... so therefore if they truly TRULY needed my help, I would help them... I have been in situations as you have stated, it was really really hard to let go and help them and I was really scared to...but in the end I feel as though I became a better person and my mind became stronger by helping them without them altering my mind/feelings/life.. everyone is different though and if this didn't make sense than I apologize.. But each person is different and should do what their gut and heart ultimately tells them..

 

Walk away...

You are responcible for your own Spiritual growth, not others.

 

LOL

 

where had this person been?



congratulations.

 

the only person that can mess up the progress you have made is yourself

 

Yeah, I can always walk away if I feel i'm going to lose my mind. I can do this.

 

Fitzy, every now and then, you astound me. Well said mate.:cheers2:

 

IT'S definatlye

 

i'm bad ass like that

 

stupid laptops, post when I am not done.

You are being tested dude. Can you create the santuary even within the confines of chaos? Can you continue to remain in your center as you face the test of what was and someone else's pulls on your attention?

Be compassionate. Love and then let go. Don't get drawn in but do make sure that you remain in the sanctuary.....because as you know, from your discription, you have found happiness. Happiness only remains when another has no power to rattle it's chains.

 

Intuition will direct you in the right direction. Listen to it. Feel it. Don’t fight it. Don’t ignore it. I don’t know your situation therefore I can not judge. Yet I can say this. Your life lies in your hands. Ultimately your decision is going to affect your life either way. As said above, compassion is one of the greatest emotions we possess. When opening ourselves to this it has profound consequences. Whether they be good or bad. They help one to grow in the end. Life is abundant with possibilities that cannot be reached when living inside ones head. Our egos put forth limitations, delusions, fears, doubts that we must hinder. If you can honestly say with your full body, mind, and soul without guilt that helping this person will destroy your life then let the situation go, move on.
You don’t have to give up your happiness to help another in need. You can have both. Find a balance. As you said if there comes a point where you know absolutely that you can’t do it then you have the power to walk away. Good luck.

 

pomunus, I think I remember you from eons ago. This post is so different from what I remember....not that those were bad...just not as deep....or perhaps I wasn't where I am now and I didn't understand.

But bravo!!!

 

:cheers2:
It has indeed been eons. Much has changed. Growth was inevitable.

 

Rock on sister. I am so glad to see you coming into a place of understanding. It's a hard trip, isn't it?

 

Absolutely. Yet the beauty of it is so profound. I wouldn't change a thing.

 

And that is when you know you are right where you should be....when you have no regrets about anything you perceive as good or bad....just life happening as it should to help you to grow to a higher place.