Difficulty on top

My boyfriend and I just started having sex, and I've been trying it on top, but I have two problems.

A) I don't really know what to do with myself because it was my first time, the first time we had sex.

B) I have really bad knees to it hurts a lot to be on top for a very long time. There's too much pressure on my knees.

I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas for me about any other way I can be on top so I'm not on my knees, and any tips to make it enjoyable for the both of us. Or if theres another position that's just as good for clitoral stimulation.

Thanks.

 

I've Only Had Sex A Few Times Now, And I Have No Idea What To Do On Top!!! Help?

 

I tend to lean forwards on to my hands a bit so my knees don't take all the weight. Then I kinda of pull myself forwards in a way rather then up and down, I find that it feels better. Then I can control the speed, it's easy really.

 

Try it out and see what feels best, there is no proper way to fuck in any position, just rock your body to the motion you and your partner find most suitable. May not quite click at first, but you'll get it eventually.

 

Your partner is allowing you to do what ever feels good to you, because it all feels good to him, so I would do whatever feels good to you.

Of course if you get the impression that you're hurting him, I might try something different unless he happens to like that sort of thing.

 

I'm just not really moving a whole lot.. I kind of lean forward on my hands and rock my pelvis back and forth when he thrusts.. but I heard it was the best for Clit stimulation and i dont get that? lol... :S

 

Everyone built differently, I've never got clit stimulation from being on top.

 

GREAT THREAD!!!!! The others did such a great job explaining things left me speachless...(for once)...You all are awesome...Now get ya some...

 

I don't get how it's bad for your knees, you're on the bed right, are you kneeling, or squatting? And is the girl on top good for clitoral stimulation? How does that work?

 

I am kneeling. and I dont know its just what I've been told. Something like his pelvic bone is supposed to rub more against it or something? No idea.

 

just bounce around and have fun

 

Being on your knees, even on a bed, if they hurt still get sore. It's the motion, not the padding.

 

when ur on top have him grasp ur hips and help u one keep balance and two push u up and force u down better or harder(if ur that way) try moving ur hips in a circler motion when ur at the base ( just a thought) my gf is usually one her knees with the pillows and just goes up and down while i hold her or whatever
u will get use to it it took us a while to figure out our best way

 

I love being on top...it usually ends up in simultaneous orgasms. I lean forward so we can kiss...the focus is on the kissing, which to me makes the sex just magical.

 

i get great multiple orgasms from clit stimulation when i'm on top. instead of bouncing up and down (which i find completely awkward and doesn't really feel good...) i put him all the way inside of me. then i lean forward either partially or completely depending on if i want to kiss while we do it, and then i move back and forth - (not in and out) - or sometimes grind in circles or even figure 8's. but i find it feels the best, absolutely amazing, just from grinding back and forth (by that i mean like towards his face / towards his feet, not side and side)... i don't know if i'm explaining this well... grind your clit on his pubic bone!

 

and what if you try that and you still cant get any clit contact with his pubic bone? i have tried and tried and nothing will make anypart of me there touch him.

 

I have found that if we put some pillows behind my hubby,where hes laying kinda at a slant (dont want him flat on his back) and then use your right arm, put it behind his neck and pull him towards you kinda where hes halfway sitting up.And like underthesun said no in & out,more of a thrusting motion.You being on top is great because you are the one in control.It might take you a few times to find what works for you.But when you do its great.


P.s When you realy get into it you might want to check every now and then make sure he can breathe,I sometimes think Im suficating him.LOL
Dont get frustrated,it takes time to find your happy place.Be patient and make sure your very relaxed..

 

so the nearest i can visualise what your saying is when he s inside you you are sort of wiggling him about in there? like ifyou are trying to get him to "tap" the inside of you more than anything else? is that what you are trying to say to do?

 

I think she's just talking about grinding.

 

No you have to control where you like it.Your in control.