is it right to tell an attached man you love him?

Hi, is it right to tell a guy you love him--- even if you know he's living with someone, and looks like in a good relationship??

I am so in love with this guy at work. We are great friends and I can really talk to him,about personal, deep things that i can't tell anyone else. I desperately want to be close to him for life!

But it's against my moral code, to go after an attached man, but I just cant help how i feel... I literally have HEARTACHE. Everyday I think about him and I feel teary. At weekends i miss him like mad and actually cant wait for Monday (which shows how bad things are Lol)

I'm pretty sure he likes me too, but sometimes I get just friend vibes from him so I'm confused -i don't know if he likes me enough to want to leave her and be with me. ( I definitley don't want to share him, or be his bit on the side).

Should i risk telling him? is it the right thing to do? I'm absolutely crap at relationships so i dont know how i should progress without making a mess of things....

But the worst thing for me is if things just passed by and NOTHING happened between us, good or bad. I would regret so much missing the moment. (story of my life!!!)

What would you do in this situation?!! Help!

 

Remain friends and wait.Why take a chance of alienating his friendship?If you guess wrong ,it'll be weird forever at your workplace.This is the time to put yourself in other's shoes=his and hers.Self restraint is the way to go.My 2 cents.

 

I would say that it would be a bad idea, if his relationship is healthy happy then chances are that he'd tell her about you saying something and she could put a stop to your friendship. You may think that he likes you because you want to think that.

 

no, its not right to put someone else in that awkward position and potentially ruin a relationship, or at least damage it.

 

agreed to all above
just think how would it be if u where in a good relationship and some one came and stole ur person away.
u should try to get to know both of them find their weakness and exploit it if u cant beat them join them, then while the sleep beat them with a stick lol JK

 

I wouldn't ever put myself in this position or be in a position like this to begin with.. I understand that you can't help the way you feel inside, or feel about someone, I understand that you wish you could be with this person.. But stop... You cannot go and damage and ruin other people's lives, that's selfish and just down right retarded.. Okay, so let's say you profess your love to this chap, he leaves his happy relationship and runs away with you, how do you know he wouldn't do the same to you, and how could you respect yourself though, seriously... Or you tell him how you feel and he doesn't feel the same and that would ruin your friendship... I mean we all can't help the way we feel inside, but you can control what you do about it, if he's happy and in a relationship don't intrude on it, stay friends, you never know, things happen for a reason, if for some reason him and his lady break it off, then there is your chance I guess... But don't do anything to sour their relationship, that is just bad character...very bad character.. If you can't control yourself around him or have these deep desires, than perhaps you shouldn't be friends I guess.... The time is just not right, if it was meant to be or whatever, than it will happen, but don't go ruining things because YOU want something, that is just selfish and a bad idea...

 

didn't read above posts but I'm sure I agree with them....

Don't cross that line, respect his relationship and enjoy your friendship that you have with him. If it's meant to be, it'll happen.

 

Dont do it, he could be just a really nice guy that likes to help out, listen and cares.

If you value the friendship I would say dont do it.

 

Dont do something you wouldnt want to happen to you. Karma will bite you