Anxiety, no confidence, i feel like shit

Lately my anxiety has gotten worse with school just starting its really frustrating. i've been skipping classes, and days because i just can't be there, its too much. I seen a psychiatrist and he gave anti-depresants fuck that i didn't take them, i'm not depressed. i've been taking xanax, its the only way i been going to school without being anxious all day.

I'm not a bad looking guy, the girls i've gone out with have asked me out and all relationships went bad. i want a relationship but my anxiety just gets in the way. Even around my friends, whenever we smoke weed it either calms me down or makes the anxiety worse. i even started excersicing more. i don't know what to do anymore.

What i'm going thru isn't me being nervous, i've been loosing my motivation for pretty much everything. Its my senior year i don't want to end it like this. its geting hard preventing panick attacks.

thoughts?

 

why do you get anxious?

 

First thought I have is it sounds like it's hugely disrupting your life -- so something definitely needs to get done about it. What sort of anxieties do you have? Are there certain things you are fearing (crowds, people's responses to you), or is it more like you just keep ruminating on thoughts to the point where you can't control what you're thinking?

Medication-wise... some anti-depressants help with anxiety as well, although that's a slow process. More immediately, you've seen Xanax works, although longer-acting options exist to get you through the day with a steadier level. And a number of drugs also can help with panic-attack symptoms.

I think the key thing is, given the degree to which this is disrupting things -- and you're absolutely right, your senior year shouldn't fall apart and it's an important time! -- you should follow-up with more help. And you can feel free to be picky and if you don't like one psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist, find one you _do_ like.

 

Like dspiel says, the anti-depressants also work on anxiety.
If I were you and things are really as bad as you say, I'd be taking them. They take at least a fortnight to begin to work though (if it's an SSRI). Try and figure out exactly what is causing the anxiety and work on that too, but I wouldnt recommend avoiding whatever it is or skipping school. All the best BigTree!

 

I went through this my freshman year of college. I ended up taking a medical leave of absence because I had completely stopped going to class. I recommend you take the antidepressants, and ask you doctor about anti-anxiety drugs. It sounds like your taking xanax off the street....is that true? If so, tell your doctor that you have tried xanax with some good results. I personally am on both a mild anti-depressant (celexa) and a strong high dose of anti-anxiety (klonipin). I've, personally found that a lot of anti-depressants don't work for me (zoloft, prozac, welbutrin, etc), they seem to make me almost bipolar. But I also need some sort of antidepressant with my antianxiety.

I wouldnt disregard the antidepressants, they help keep an even base from which the anxiety can be helped.

 

You may have undiagnosed ADHD, which is adult hyperactivity disorder. It can cause lack of concentration or ability to focus. Talk to your doctor about trying Wellbutrin as an antidepressant or maybe ever Ritalin or something similar

 

Do you work for the drug companies or something?

People seem to think pills cure anything nowadays.

Kid, you need to kick yourself in the pants and get on with life. You sound like a normal young person to me. Everybody is a mess at this age.

But it does get better...


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I just read, "Prozac Nation", and it just got me to thinking how a drug can save a life.

 

Some people need drugs to be "normal, but most are just victims of bad decisions and bad circumstances.

Your grandparents didn't need drugs to get by with. They sucked it up and kept going. They really were the "greatest generation". Tough people.

I miss them.



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You're still growing, it's just a stage...

No need for meds.

 

well thanks for replying, i took 1 and half x pill, still trying to have a life changing experience. i been trying to fix this problem for over 2 years. I'm not really sure what causes my anxiety and yesterday i had my worst anxiety attack yet. the anxiety just started like 8 months ago and slowly getting worse. Plus i'm pretty sure i have aspegers syndrome my shrink thought i did. I'm so bad at flirting with girls and stuff unless i take a bar. this bullshit is holding me back from so many things i want to do

my plan is to continue taking xanax, excercise more, eat better and try to boost my confidence somehow. Any suggestion on anything?

 

Drugs might be necessary. But hopefully not. Try to find a psychologist specializing in RBT.

Until then, just try to get by.

 

There are SO many of these types of threads this year...all of a sudden.

Evolution?

Perhaps...

 

I think I understand what you're talking about. I have horrible, horrible, horrible panic episodes daily. Not even "almost daily"... every single day. I really feel for you. I've finally realized (after a few months of this) that I need to get in control of this. I'm going to start exercising and try to cut caffiene out of my diet and try some relaxation/breathing techniques. I really don't think you should be self-medicating like you are. Xanax can turn on you the same way weed turned on me. I smoked for a few weeks straight, two or three times a day, just to keep my anxiety under control and then one day, bam! I had the worst panic attack of my entire life while stoned. It's really not a safe thing, for your anxiety or your physical wellbeing, to be doing. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here.