My fiance cheated on me. Our relationship has been long distance off and on for awhile. We were together for 6 months about 4 months ago. Our two year anniversary was going to be on November 25. It was just a random guy. She claims to have discovered a new moral freedom. She doesn't consider it cheating because she at random sent me a text saying we were broken up right before she did it. I went into debt taking care of her while she got back into school and got her life back together. Now I don't even have the money to buy a single textbook for school. She's calling me trying to convince me that we she should still be married after 3 more months of her doing whatever she pleases. She cheated in the past, although that time it was only kissing. I forgave her and trusted her again. She knew what this meant to me and knew what doing this meant. She was my first. I would have never had sex with her if I didn't think we were going to be married. In honesty, we're Mormon and were planning to get married in the temple. We sought a bishop and repented. That takes a year. The day we were done was the day she cheated on me. I don't even really know why I'm telling you guys this.
dude that sucks, i am sooo sorry. There isn't much to say, but you just gotta remember life goes on and even thuogh times are shitty they have to get better. And about the girl, I know you loved her, it just seems it isn't right. Patience and time will bring along new and better things. and about money, well you are in school, college students are bound to go through a state of fiancial crisis (trust, me I'm there now) but it will settle itself in time. Always remember to smile, trust me the more you smile the happier you'll be
dont ruin your life and get married at 19, good lord, she saved you both if this will prevent you two from getting married at such an EXTREMELY young age....... dude, marry at 19=life ruined
she is absolutely not ready right now to be married to anyone. hell, i dont think shes even ready to handle a monogamous relationship in a mature fashion
exactly- cheating is normally just a matter of immaturity, she probably doesn't fully realize the concept and goodness of real commitment.
I know how you feel. Mine done the same thing. Stupid as I was tried to make it work. YOU can't make it work. So now It has almost been 8 months. But I found out to his close friends and family. We are still togather. So he is calling and saying the same things like yours is doing. But all i can think is the things he said to me. That HURT me. But with time you will heal. Hope it works out for you.
((((((hugs!!!)))))) I am SO sorry! Sometimes just "venting" can make you feel better. For what it's worth, I was married at 19 as well... after a 3-year engagement & literally everyone we knew trying to tell us we were too young & it wouldn't work out. We have now been married for over 13.5 years, and are more in love now than we ever have been. Lasting young love is rare, but it happens. You really only have two options. You can forgive her, or you can't. If you can, it would take a LOT of work on BOTH of your parts to rebuild the trust that's been broken. She would have to earn your trust again, and you would have to fight to TRUST her again. Everything else is details. Money is a considerable issue, but shouldn't be a determining factor in a relationship. Likewise with sex. Yep it's important & maybe you resent having not "waited" now, but you did & now that's neither here nor there. All that's left is do you WANT to forgive or move on, and are you willing to put the time & effort into repairing your relationship, or would it be better (not easier) if you moved on. Good luck! love, mom
Gotta admit, no matter how hard, dump her. She will never be faithful and you can never trust her. Sorry to be harsh
