what would the buddha do? URGENT!

ive been having it out with this freshman and im a senior. i didnt want to start anyhting but he was giving my little brother cigarettes and stuff so i told him to stop or id kick his ass. and since then weve hated eachother. the other night at the football game we were screaming at eachother and i threw a big gulp at him, missed. then we started walking towards eachother and i pulled a swtichblade on him. i didnt do anything i just wanted to scare him. then today he started saying shit in the hall to me at school.

The main thing of this post is i used to try and follow the teachings of the buddha closely. then after awhile i just started to try and be who i am. im irish and scottish, i have a short temper and i come from a family who is know to fight at the drop of a hat. i guess i dont know if im being my true self lately or i havent found it because im not following the buddha. am i being my true self or have i lost it? will i truely find it if i start following the buddha again. this kids prolly gonna be giving me shit tommorow and my first instinct is gonna be to drop him. i dont know what to do? i was also thinking of just walking up to him and staring at him until he walked away. please help i dont know what my true self is anymore. i found it using LSD. and its getting foggy now and im a little lost.

 

relax...
the kid is a bastard
there are millions of bastards

learn to deal with them, not with knives

 

yeah too late everyone. kid pushed me and knocked the shit out of him. i got 10 day suspension and arrested for disorderly conduct. then on my way home i hit a new cadillac and caused 3500 dollars worth of damage >< at least the day cant get worse from here

 

violence begets violence
doesn't matter what your family
peace creates peace
that's why they call it MAKING friends and MAKING love
they don't call it something else
you have to make it
you have to make peace
that is what Buddha would do!

 

Plus, im sure Budha didn't carry a switch blade and act like a hard ass to begin with...

 

hahahah good point xac. welp whats done is done. i need a break from my hell hole of a high school anyhow. besides what better way to spend my day today working on my aunts alpaca farm.

 

If you see much of war then peace becomes more of a necessity. And more meaningful. Young men full of hormones and steam want some action. But this is important, one shouldn't base their conduct on some aspect of their personality which is going to change. Because at some point a person will want to be calm and peaceful and if one, say, became a soldier that would be impossible to obtain. Thus self knowledge is very important even for choosing livelihood.

 

Chodpa was right about one thing ... "violence begets violence" ... !

Violence has a companion(s). It's name is war, killing, murder, extinction.

Violence is a result of hatred. Hatred is a result of anger. Anger is a result of impatience. Impatience is a result of disappointment. And disappointment is a result of "not getting what one wants".

You, Spaceboy, don't have to follow the teachings of Buddha in order to be "who you are", or "true to yourself". Following the teachings of Buddha also will not make you "who you are", or "true to yourself".

You can be who you are or true to yourself practicing in any religion, or practicing no religion. The choice is yours.

Mind is chief. With an evil mind, evil follows. With a good mind, good follows. It is your actions, and the motivating factors for action that Buddha was teaching.

You act because you want to out of a need to be happy. All beings act out a need to be happy.

Only you can control your hatred, anger, impatience, and disappointment by not acting on the need to be happy. Just let it be as it is and don't [re]act. Whenever you try to change things or situations outside of your own mind, the end result will almost always be disappointments. Rather than change what is outside of you, change what is inside. Doing so will automatically result in change on the outside without you interfering.

You CAN'T MAKE PEACE, contrary to popular opinion of others. Peace is a direct result of not doing that which obstructs peace. You CAN'T MAKE FRIENDS either. Friends choose you because of what they see in you. How they feel when they are around you, and likewise you choose them on the same reasons. You cannot MAKE anything. You can only let things travel (appear) the course they travel (and disappear) without interference.

In Buddhism there are the precepts which when practiced assist one to control their mind, to quieten the mind, to corral the mind, draw it in to calm and peace. The precepts are never demanded on one to keep, but there is a direct result to all actions, either good, bad, or indifferent.

No matter if one does not believe in kamma (karma) the results of ones actions performed in this very life, this very moment or in a previous life belong to the one who acts.

One does not need Buddhism to understand this.

One only needs to become satisfied with what one has without wanting more. This is true happiness. And from happiness there is peace, bliss free from desire, free from ill-will and free from delusion.

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I'm sure Siddhattha would be totally apathetic to the issue.

 

Beautiful...thank You...

 

Not to beggar some small issues but one can in fact make peace and make friends and make love, but not if you're a forest renunciate. Unfortunate. Because then you must observe some passive missive.

 

Well, talk with that guy that gives your brother cigarettes, and talk with your brother.
And tell the guy that you beaten the shit out that your sorry, and try to explain him the definition of responsibility (if he's smart enough). If your brother does wants to smoke you can't stop him, give him some constructive advise, tell him that smoking (at his age?) is not healty, and that its something you don't want to start with.
I don't know, just talk, that seems the best solution for these kind of things.
In the past i sometimes gave my brother a joint with a little bit of hasj, and i feel so darn guilty about that now, but i'm happy that my little brother is wise enough to decide from himself if he wants to do any drugs, or smoke a ciggeratte, and he knows that at his age its better to not do that kind of things, nothing wrong with smoking pot or hasj, but for some reason its just not something i to want see my little brother doing, and i still feel dead guilty about those few times that i shared a joint with him.

 

So, perhaps you can explain, Chodpa ... how does one MAKE love?

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By having sex, of course.

I agree with you, one doesn't make love.


I remember someone speaking at a retreat that I was at one weekend. the guy was basically saying that you attract what you want into your life, and if you perpetuate negativity and violence, that is what you will receive.


I think that falls neatly into the domain of "cause and effect."


My advice, I would watch the way you react to the kid.


Because people feed off peoples reactions, and it just lets them buy into the emotional rollercoaster that is your emotions and play you for the fool.


I know, because I used to do it all the time.


Just don't be so volatile, take a deep breath before you make a decision.


And, try not to hit any more Cadillacs.

 

dude pulling out a knife is so stupid and ignorant, and if your brother wants to smoke its his deal. Chill the fuck out.

 

trying to prove your tough? you're just showing us that you're immature and have no self control.

 

Dude chill, these things happen, i'm sure he isn't proud of what he has done.

 

By removing the splinter before moving on....
for a start.

 

Yes, it is easier ... much easier ... to consider the splinter in others ....

That way, we don't have to consider our own motes ...

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id just ask your little brother not to smoke and tell and show him how its bad for him. im surprised that little freshman isnt shaking in his boots.