The theory is that confidence/self-esteem has totally different effects on sexual performance between men and women. They say "fat girls try harder", and according to my mate that more or less bears out. By contrast, men with big wangs tend to be naturally confident (because most men's "problems" stem from insecurity about their wangs) and that translates to better sex. Essentially, the theory goes men benefit from high self-esteem, women benefit from low self-esteem. Ideally I'd like to hear from bisexuals, but does anyone wanna help refine the theory?
I'm not quite sure...I was looking up halloween costumes and then saw this thread and that pic so I combined the two, sorry if it doesn't quite make sense.. about the theory, you should conduct a survey.
Yep, I figure if you don't like me there are a ton who do. My body may not be to your standards, but to me its the hottest body ever. My body isn't the only thing that makes me who I am. I am pretty damn sexy. I have alot of plus friends who are exactly like me. Hell I get whistles when I walk down the street. Its not the girls body that makes up a girl its her personality. Tiffany
I was always taught this, and I grew up thinking "any minute now, I'm going to meet someone who doesn't basically fit into a stereotype... any minute.... now...". Generalisations do save a lot of time, even if they don't make us feel as good about ourselves as trying to treat everyone like individuals. Most people aren't unique! I'm pretty sure everyone's a stereotype if you have specific, varied enough stereotypes, and I don't get why it's so offensive to imagine people are products of who they are. Most middle class white Catholic boys will have had similar experiences growing up, and will likely have had different experiences to high-caste Indian girls, for example. If we truly imagine generalisations to be bad, it would be despicable to imagine that, surely? Lol tangent.
I've since edited that post because a lot of it was bollocks. But I dunno, how many factors is way too many? If you take age, race, sex and class into account, that's 4 factors. Demographics in advertising work like this, and are kind of reverse stereotypes; instead of guessing what 40 year old black housewives are like based on what the media already says they're like, they'll look into it, do a survey or two, and come up with a working model of how that group generally behaves. True, the resultant "stereotype" may not be 100% accurate, but it won't often be statistically insignificant either. Similar people tend to do similar things.
i think overly confident guys or well-endowed guys end up thinking no matter what they do in bed will get the job done for the girl, so maybe they'd end up being not-so-good?
i disagree i think confidence is always better when it comes to sex guy or girl...ive never banged a girl but i know the first time i had sex i was so nervous and self-conscious that i wasn't good enough cause the guy was REALLLY hot so i just kinda laid there and didn't do much, because i didn't want to mess up or look stupid or something but now im more self confident and definitely better at sex hahah
I don't think guys are outwardly confident because they're well hung, you'll find, typically, most confident guys are good looking guys. I don't know how your friend came up with that theory. I went to boarding school (communal showers) and I didn't see any correlation between penis size and confidence. I disagree about most men's insecurity stemming from their penis, most men, and women's insecurities stem from their physical appearance, you know, the thing that's always showing. By that theory, I'm suppose to assume a guy with no confidence has a small penis? That doesn't quite sound right to me.
That's a lie. Every dude that is super confident and makes huge dick jokes ISN'T hung. And I've seen a LOTTA dicks. It's always true. And the dudes that don't talk about it, ever... turn out to be hung like fucking walruses.
Odd thing is that many guys with monster penises feel very insecure about them. I knew a guy who was really short and nerdy and had no confidence, especially when it came to women. The guy was so big that he'd had women, even prostitutes just refuse. It got to where he just expected it. I felt bad for him. He was very lonely.
