rant about my friend...

ok so my best friend recently got a boyfriend.

apparantly he doesn't like to chill with her friends. he will chill only if it's like just her and me but never when it's me and her and our other friends.

me and her used to hang out every day all day and its cool if she wants some space to be with him, but like ive barely seen her these past couple weeks.

like we always have our morning cigarette on the phone together and we'll plan to chill that day and shit and then it all falls through.

like today she texted me to smoke while i was in saturday school. i told her i was in saturday school and i'll call her when i get out.

so i got out she texted me like "let's smoke a blunt" i was like "ok when" shes like "in an hour, ill txt you."

an hour passes. an hour and a half. i text her "hey do u still wana smoke"

she goes, "yeah im with (her boyfriend) we'll match you a blunt later"

so later comes...and i text her and im like "dude whats going on are we gonna smoke?"

and shes like "well i smoked with (Her boyfriend) a couple hours ago and my throat is really sore from it so i'm not up for smoking any more today"

WTF. this sounds like bullshit to me. her throat is sore from smoking? yeah right...i've smoked with her when we were both like sick as fuck, half dead and barely able to walk and we still smoked.

and just the fact that we make plans, so that i'm just waiting around for her instead of chillin or making plans with other people and then by the time she tells me she doesnt want to any more it's too late.

i'm just pissed off i don't know what to do about it, i want to confront her but i don't know what to say so that i don't come off as a jealous bitch?

and then there's the chance that she really did have a sore throat and i'm just being paranoid and stupid but this isn't the first time something like this has happened.

it's just confusing because why would she text me asking to smoke if she didn't want to?

 

Tell that bitch that bros before hoe's applys to girls aswell. If she doesnt listen look like your gunna have to find yourself a new best friend!!

 

Sucks man.

I can empathize. Similar thing happened to me-long story, I won't go into it here.

Look, just give yourself some time to chill out and if you're going to talk to her, do it then. Don't do it now while you're heated. You'd only loose it and that would make things worse.

 

yeah that's a good point, also i want to talk to her face to face about it because shit through texts always gets confusing and misinterperted and all that shyt.

but i don't know what to say?
because she hasn't really done anything WRONG and i don't want to call her a liar, but idk..

 

From experience, this exact same thing happens to everyone of my friends whenever they find themselves a new girlfriend. These days, I just dont bother to try and get them to hang out with me anymore, because they will change their mind halfway.

I just dont really bother to chill with my friends anymore when they have a GF, and a lot of them know that. I just let them call me and see when its cool to chill, because if one friend has a girlfriend, I can always call other friends and see whats up.

And this is what usually brings them back from being so damn selfish and being with their girlfriends and forgetting their friends. Once they realise that they dont like their girlfriend's friends, they try to find reasons to chill with you.

So my advice for you. Wait, ignore her, and straight up tell her that you are going to be chilling and smoking with other people. And say its because you want her and her boyfriend to be able to have as much time together. It can work two ways though: She takes this straightforeward and spends all the time with him and forgets her friends, or she realises whats shes missing out on not hanging out with you, so she will spend more time with you rather than making false promises of a blunt that you never got to smoke with her.

Although one time, I had a friend who practically dragged me to chill with him and his girlfriend. Feels fucking uncomfortable being the third person there.

 

yeah, that's a good idea and ive been kinda doing that
but like she really likes the dude i can tell, and also she likes his group of friends because they're "cool" so she always wants to hang out with them, so i don't think she's going to have a problem with not chillin with me for a while.


but yeah i'll just chill with other people more, it just sucks cuz she's the person i like spending time with most out of all my friends

also i just dropped out of school and my new school doesn't start till november, her BF already graduated and she also dropped out, and all my other friends are in school so during the day during the week she's the only person available.

 

threesome.

 

that was a joke.
Some point or another, chances are her boyfriend and her will break up or get into a fight or something. So make other friends and hang out with them. When her boyfriend can't hang out, or their in a fight and aren't hanging out all the time, etc. She will call you sometime and want to hang out. Then, if you're mad at her, you can tell her you're doing something with your other friends. If you aren't you can hang out with her and remind her that she needs to spend time with you, because if her boyfriend dumped her or whatever, she would come right back to you.

 

:cheers2:

 

chicks before dicks is the ladies version of bro's before hoe's

 

Thanks for the clarification.

 

If you don't really think she's done anything wrong, just tell her how all this shit is making you feel.

You don't have to lay any blame on her. Just tell how all this is putting you down.
(I was a peer mediator in Jr. High )