me and my husband have tried anal sex. when he puts it in,it hurts like hell than he keeps going and it doesnt get any better after that he stops.. i have real bad hemrrodes and i was wondering if that could be the problem...
yeah....... try not to eat so much sugar then, you have to completely relax you have to ease into it, very very slowly
sure hemroids can be a problem. If your body is reacting like that, there is too much friction. You need to lubricate it. And yeah, you do have to relax. It all depends of if you are able to relax until your body has no resistance. Then when it doesn't, wow!
hmm my partner and i have tried anal before but she claims it hurts, shes extremely interested in trying every once in awhile tho.. never really gets too far.
Good anal sex first starts in the mind. To be a recepient of anal sex, you must first desire it intensively in your mind first. The key to that is the proper foreplay and arousal. If your man is skilled at it, it will happen naturally to you. Otherwise, just sticking it in right away will hurt you--as well as anyone else for that matter--like hell. For more anal sex lessons you're too embarrassed to ask, PM me. The Backdoor Man
So what is going on now with you ? can you take it now ? usually first 3 time is it bad then you will be ok
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
Slow down . Use lots of lube . If it hurts , he's trying to rush before you're ready . You can get a butt plug about his size and he can very slowly work it in during fore play . When he pulls it out . your anus will be relaxed and stretched , then he can enter with more comfort for you . If you use a vibrator in front , he will need less movement to orgasm in the back .
