Abuse advice..

Sweet deviant - seriously if you want to just rant talk somewhere else. Men are abusers just as women are. do your research before you start ranting get some help stop trying to draw conclusions when you haven't been in ANYONES shoes

 

We've had sex. We do it a few times a week.. I can't touch him there with my hand at all. I might be able to graze it but I have a hard time even doing that. Him and I are having talks about it and we're going to work through it.

And as said before it is frustrating me beyond belief. It's something I want to do for him So I really want to get past this.

 

AND. He was a good partner aside from that. . . If he had of hurt me physically..by hitting me or anything of the sort I would have left immediately. . I was young and didn't know any better and like someone else had said, I've seen some of my guy friends fall back into abusive relationships and destructive ones. Ugh. This is just not what I wanted..

 

seems to me the key issue here is needing to feel free to leave if and when things get uncomfortable for you. if you're sure you can pick up and walk out if you don't like what's going on, there's no reason for lingering doubts and fears to plague you. is there something about your current relationship that's weighing on you? are you sure this is entirely about your past relationship only?