Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships.

A person goes on holiday, falls in love and have an amazing time that won't be forgotten. The day comes to leave and there's crying and so much sorrow at the airport saying goodbye for now. One gets home and goes to bed and cries.

Second time someone comes on holiday to continue relationship and stays a few months. They become part of your life, they leave, more tears except its worse, the one being left drives home not being able to see the motorway for tears, goes to bed where their lover slept and cries for a few days hardly eating and cuddling the pillow left behind. If anyone disturbs them they get a short temper and tells even loved ones to go away. The one leaving has happy family on other side to see them again but the one that left won't be in any mood for their happiness and tells them to get f*cked too.

3rd. Airports have conflicting emotions. you know you gonna get tears when you leave family and friends etc and a happy partner on the other side. One is so happy to see their partner but the one getting their partner back knows the hell and tears that they went through leaving their family so feel guilt, but both hope love will see them through.

The emotions on 2 airports leaving and getting to destination is ultimate conflicting emotions of 1 side happiness and the other side sadness that airports become an emotional nightmare cos they know there is a lot of misery involved at 1 end .

Oh, almost forgot, the 'fone call' when either gets back home safe, both crying hearts out over the fone trying to console eachother, then through tears they try to cheer eachother up. Then both assure eachother they will be ok, the fone goes down, then thats when the REAL floodgates open with screaming into pillows and days of tears.

A reality of what airports etc eventually mean dispite the pleasure of having love and fantastic times . A lot of the time, the risk is worth it. But its not all fun and games.

 

I need a girl close by at all times

 

i'm not entirely sure of the point of your post. just that long-distance relationships are hard?

 

Very hard .

 

well yes, i would imagine it would kind of suck.

 

Not if u a millionaire and can travel when u want though I bet. But, just 1 realistic opinion of what can and does happen in long distance relationships etc.

 

I've been in one. They do suck. Horribly compared to ones where you can see the person when you want. But it sure as hell beats no relationship =(

 

Sensible attitude b.t.w Carlfloydfan. Try get a local partner if can. But you never know where and how far your heart reaches to conect with someone.

 

I know what you mean Geneity. But it can be so bloody hard if u fall in love and wanna be together in person.

 

I don't think they are all that bad. As long as you always say goodbye with a date to see each other again, it's pretty easy if you find the right person to put effort into making it work. It helps if you partner up with someone who isn't needy and requires needless long distance phone calls everyday.

I mean, people went for years and years without seeing each other but they wrote letters and managed to stay engaged with one another because that's what happens when you find a compatible mate - you keep the embers of love and trust aglow by tending to them, and stirring what small things you can do in the midst of distance.

But what do I know? I'm Catholic. I'm accustomed to sacrifice and martyrdom.

 

My girlfriend and I had a long distant relationship before she moved here to be with me. It was hard, however I wouldn't take it back for anything. It made us get to know each other. Long talks on the phone, and endless texting. When talking is the only connection you have, you tend to open up more and talk about what you want and need. It's hard...very hard. But it helps you to take it slow, and know if it's what you really want

 

its going to have to be a really incredible lady to get me to reconsider doing a LDR again

 

I met mine as a penpal in the 80's, ( no net or txt's then lol ). But if partners can't settle in eachother countries in the long run even if both have tried both countries, and if 1 won't have kids for fear of comitment to a country until the kid(s) are grown up. Then thats hard too and becomes a big problem.

Love carries a long time and does not stop, but one wonders. Why the heck didn't I get a local lady *sigh*

 

We both feel same way though. So she or I could be gone soon.

No matter.

 

My one and a half year relationship ended recently; it had been long distance for about 2 months, and would have been back to normal after another 2.
It was upsetting to say the least, because I cared enough to make it work; I found out that he didn't. It's hard, but I guess I'm better off with somebody who thinks I'm worth the effort. :]

 

they give you a call and let you know that they're seeing a pretty blonde girl, your heart gets crushed, and you realize that you're much better than the entire state of texas

 

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When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

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I had one long distance relationship with a girl from Malaysia. I met her in Malaysia and we had lots of fun together, but once I was back home it lasted only a few more months before we could accept that long distance relationships don't work.

I still have contact with her though, so at least I have gotten a friendship out of it.

 

dude, I was so wasted last night, I have no idea what I was trying to post when I posted the above.

 

I didn't read all the details- thatd be gay : )
Anyway , is this "do they work"?

I'd say def yes- when u feel its destiny - say u "have to".

I'm prob the only person I know stupid enough to have a long distance relat with a Russian lapdancer.: )
Fortunately , monogamy wasnt an issue (had an open aspect), and we could meet"as and when".(Still meet up too occasionally)
It *is* hard tho...