i've been thinking about it alot in the last 6 months... and i am gay.... i know this part isnt the problem i have thought about it and said it to myself i am. the problem is i am with a girlfriend atm and well >< i just cant break her heart even tho i am gay i just cant bring my self to break up with her... and its even harder because she is so far away now in uni.. can any1 give me some advice on what to do. oh and btw i have only really told 2 of my closest friends that i am gay ><
it may break her heart but in the long run breaking up with her is the honest and right thing to do. u just gotta choose the right moment and explain it to her, and if she's a reasonable person she will understand. it's a right thing to do in regard of her and in regard of yourself. and if she is away at college then the blow would actually be less severe than it would be if she were seeing you every day. & the more you string her along the more she might get attached to you and the harder the breakup will be. that's what i think.
Nobody likes rejection but unfortunately it's part of life. You must be honest with her as you can be. She'll no doubt be hurt at first but in the long run she'll appreciate the fact that you were up front and respectful. Going behind her back and her finding out will make things much worse for both of you. If you can't face telling her you're gay, then give her a few positives about her character and then just say something about not feeling the connection/compatibility anymore etc. If she cannot take no for an answer and is refusing to back off then you must give her the full truth.
unknown what was i that made u realise u were gay, especiall when u had a girlfriend, i am juts confused with my sexuality, and want to no what emotions and thoughts u were going through to realise u were gay
well i told her... she didnt take it well at all and i how i new i was well... was about 1 year ago... was at a halloween party doing truth or dire one of the dires i had was to kiss one of my best mates. so both of us being slightly drunk did it. and i got slightly excited down below if u know what i mean. but then i thought i cant be gay im going out with a girl and just deined what i felt that night and it happened again... i kissed another person on a night out and... then i just thought long and hard about it all. very confusing thinking why how, i cant be i dont want to be and all the feeling just kind ov grew and i am. have told a few mates now trying to pick up courage to tell my mother and father know tho dunno how they going to take it,
Well, good for you.. At least you got the courage to tell your girlfriend and your few other friends..
was not easy at all very hard the girl i was going out with started cry down the phone saying its another women and just didnt belive that i was but after i conviced her she put the phone down >< (had to do it on the phone shes 150 od miles from me in uni not my personal choice) but then she rang me back apologising for how she had been and said she still hopes we stay friends, which apart from the beginning went very well. how should i tell my parents >.> should i just be straight out with it or just sit down with them after work one day and have a long talk about it? thanks for all the help btw been awsum
yeah looks like it went well from what it sounds like. i think u did great parents though are a whole different thing. it depends on a variety of things. like, are u still dependent on them for home and food? how well do you get along with them? i guess i would first try to gauge their reaction on what they think of gay ppl and go from there. hope everything works out.
so what did sex feel like with ur girlfriend did u enjoy it, or were u thinking ov men at the time, when u kissed the men u did, did u get hard, sorry for all the questions just confused myself hope u dont mind
What meridianwest said is right.. It's important to consider whether do you still dependent on your parents ?? And maybe try to see your parents reaction on gay issues.. It would be even harder for me as I lived in an Islamic country.. People here are too conservative.. I've only told 2 of my friends that I'm gay(one studying in New Zealand and one studying in Australia) because I think they are open minded, and yes, they both accepted it and still chat with me normally.. The rest of my friends, I don't think I've the courage to tell them yet..
I've been out for almost over a year now. Parents are the trickiest thing. I told my twin before my mum. I didn't even have to tell her, she just assumed that I was. She is acting normal with me, she's told me that's she's worried about aids and the like. But... oh well. I CANNOT tell my dad, it just won't happen. I cannot will myself to do it. My mum even told me not to. He's extremely homophobic. Everyone in school knows. I'm not bothered what's said behind closed doors they can think what they want. No one has discrimminated me - yet.
erolll parat i am a twin aswell they say twins are more likely to be homosexual, are iu identical, is ur brother straight, have u ever being with a girl, if so what did it feel like to you, sorry for the questions confused with my sexuality
I'm an identical twin, and he's straight. I have never had sex with a girl, wouldn't want to either XD
okay mate i understand, when u say u wouldnt want to do u find it repulsive or something, what is it about women that turns u off, and what is it that turns u on about men, do u think genitelia plays a big part in it
Generally, as genitillia are what define gender. Haha. Women, in a sexual way, are just repulsive. Everything about it, just yuck!
so what about when gays says it isnt about the genitals its about the physicla and emotional aspect ov it
it is about the genitals as well as about looks, personality, etc. the thing that is most arousing sexually is the penis (and ass). it would be absurd to say that genitals have nothing to do with it. but if it's about having a relationship with a certain guy then personality, attitude, etc also come into play.
