Ok so i've been working with this girl for a month or 2 now, we exchanged numbers and everythings pretty cool, we text a lot but she usually starts the texting. one problem is that she currently has a bf. i usually try not to talk about him with her but sometimes she'll tell me how he doesn't ever like to do what she likes to do. im not trying to steal her from him because thats wrong. I don't intentionally flirt with her but my personality is one that always has to be laughing or smiling, so i probably have been sending wrong signs. so yesturday we hung out at her house and i helped her set up a myspace on her new comp. after a while of youtubing random funny things we went to get some food and i was going to go home. we went to subway and it was right before they closed so we had nowhere to eat. so we started eating in my car in a empty parking lot. Now my mom is moving so i had to get a bunch of things out of her house so in my backseat was like my snowboard and a guitar and some random things. She noticed the guitar and wanted to hear something so we went out of the car and sat on the pavement and i started playing for her, she wanted me to sing but i told her i wasn't about to sing to someone elses girlfriend, then she told me that she doesn't even know how long they'll be dating and they have been sorta separating slowly. i started to play fun songs n sing to get her to laugh a little but for some reason i started playing nice and pretty things for her and after an hour i decided to go. she sent me a "" in a text that night and i haven't tried talking to her since. i guess my question for u is.. i kinda like her i guess but i don't want her to break up with a guy for me. should i just stop making contact for a little while and let her choose whatever she wants to do? i wouldn't cut her off completely but i wouldn't hang out with her. and do u guys think i am shady to her boyfriend for doing that? any comments are appreciated. Jay
Just keep going on as you have been and let her decide. When and if she does leave the other guy be sure you're there for her. break ups are always hard regardless of how emotionally distant the two may be so she may need a shoulder to lean on when it comes. If you offer that it will give you a chance to emotionally bond. Afterwards everything else is up to her. Ask her out after she recovers from the split and when you think the time is right. She'll make a decision on what to do.
if you like her thats all that matters waiting doesnt work out too good it sounds like she likes you and you guys got a connection going, if you think about it hed probally try and get with her, like i said though if you really like her you'll go for it.
