Has anyone here had a 3sum. Im sure some people have...so what are the pros and cons of a 3 sum..for example I have been with my guy for 8 years or so and someday were gonna be ready to try the ffm thing or even maybe the mmf thing. waht are some of the problems that came from it,,jealousy...stds lol? really what?
I've had threesomes. actually a foursome, my g/f and me with 2 guys. We did a bit of everything including giving one guy oral while fucked by the other guy f, her watching while I did it and me watching her. We both also had a guy giving it to us while we gave each other oral. There was a tinge of jealousy watching her with the two guys, but it was also incredibly erotic. I don't know if I would want to watch her with another girl though, we'' have to see about that. I think the most enjoyment is going down on my g/f while the guy is fucking me.
My wife and I have done both the mmf and the ffm thing on numerous occasions. You really have to be confident in your sexuality and strong in your relationship with your significant other. It is incredibly erotic watching you partner go at it with someone else, but it does require trust. I really don't think I would have been confident enough say fifteen years ago. As a couple we had to grow into these experiences and realize both of our true bi-sexual natures. And... in any sex, other than with your trusted partner, protect yourselves against STDs.
The STD problems are the same as in two person sex, it's one more person you've potentially got to glue into a condom if they get sniffy about it, but if you're doing it with the kind of people you should then it's not a major issue. I've had a couple of threesomes, never with anyone I knew well enough to call a partner. While I like the idea that I could be in a committed relationship with someone and still be able to play around without getting jealous, I don't know if it's true. The last time was with a guy who I was on a date with, in retrospect, I think it may have been a little insensitive, but what the hell, he got one-on-one sex with a total stranger out of it (while I was taking a piss; tag-teaming may be a bit pervy, but it's also very practical), so I feel no guilt. By the way, don't use alcohol as a social lubicrant (you know what I mean), because morose drunk sex and crying when there's three of you is so much worse.
So my experience would be possibly a little different & on top of that none of us were really partners. Usually good friends & in one case I had played with each other guy separately & I think that they had with each other before we had our night of fun. The last one I had was with two guys that I met at the bar one night last Spring. It started out that one of the guys wanted to play with me was making huge overtures in that manner. The other guy in the group wanted to play with this guy. My addled mind immediately hatched the plan that we all go play. So I suggested it to each separately & In a short time we were off to the second's place. I'll spare you the details but we all had fun but when it came down to it I had less fun than the other two because the guy whose house we were @ wasn't into me* so we really didn't interact & it got to be more like a gang bang or something with the guy who was interested in me in the first place. Moral of that story. If you can determine if all the players are compatible before hand & are willing to share their attention with all involved everyone will have a better time. As has been said, I would think that you do have to be comfortable with your relationship if you are a couple coming into this. Someone in your trio also has to be comfortable with playing with someone of their same sex. I am guessing that you are open minded enough that you can overcome both of these issues though, Applespark. Something that also popped into my mind & maybe you wouldn't be into this but here it is anyhow. What about getting together with another couple? Everyone would have about the same things at stake so it could at least diffuse if not eliminate the jealousy thing. Again from my past. My second Wife had a very close friend who got married just before I started dating her. Not very long after we were dating we started having parties with this couple where we would play strip poker or strip twister. In both games if you lost after you didn’t have cloths left you got a “penalty” that would be determined by the other three. We never really got into actual intercourse but were pretty close to heavy petting on many occasions. I was the only one of that group as far as I know that eventually admitted that I was bi so even though none of us were practicing same sex relationships at the time we were able to on a more innocent level play with some of these things. Sort of an introduction to group play if you will. If you got together with a bi couple now that would make experimentation even easier. Just brainstorming.... *Yes, it is possible to fing a gay male who has a problem with a guy in a dress.
I've had 3somes where I was the third party and I've had some where I was in the relationship. So I've seen some of teh negative sides to the group thing when relationships are involved. There is a couple that I know (I wasn't involved in this one) where the guy was pushing for a FFM 3some with his gf. She finally gave in and they found someone and tried it out. Well, even though it was his idea, he got so jealous at seeing them together that he just couldn't look at her the same way again. Fantasy vs. Reality. Some things are better left as fantasy. But that doesn't mean it will happen all the time. I was involved with a married couple a few months back and they are still very much in love. The trick is to make sure that no one is feelign left out at any given moment. Especially if two of them are in a relationship. it's harder to get jealous when you're receiving attention from your playmates. Some couples who engage in group situations also put limitations on their sex play. There was a 5 person gathering where it was oral only. no actual penetration unless it was with your significant other. But in a 3some, the third party might feel left out. But you can impose other limitations, or keep somethign just between you and your significant other, know what I mean? All in all, it's something to do for fun. If someone is not having fun, just make sure to stop immediately. Always try to get a feel for your partner that everythign is fine and you won't have any problems. I'm a little tired this morning, but I hope part of this helps a little.
I've had threesomes with two other guys, neither of which I'm in a relationship with. It was the first threesome for me. They were both tops, I hooked up with the one and the other guy showed up and it just happend. the next two times we go together we planned it. It was really exciting and very wild as they were both very physical and aggressive in their fucking.
threesomes are great as both a means to heightened sexual pleasure as well as evolution and growth of which the two go hand in hand... one great position for this applespark is to hold your lover's head in you arms in your heart or boob area in a nurturing manner while he is in a comfortable position to recieve another male in an anal sex position... as your mate is sexually excited by another penis, this will expand the awareness of his own penis' pleasure giving capacity as well as give him the experience of his own feminine nature as one who recieves the pleasure of the penis enhanced too by your loving and compassionate nurturing of his head in your heart region which will allow him to further tune into the Goddess frequencies of love... further expansion of this may lead nestling his head into your crouch wherever or wherever your imagination takes you... sucking his cock while he is getting fucked... have fun... practive safe sex... have a male partner who is comfortable with the male sex and takes his time with gentle strokes as the intensity works up... exchange positions and have your partner be the driver if you have two women, this same position can be tried with one strapping on a dildo and anally fucking the male and once again switch positions and allow your partner to feel the experience of getting fucked by you another great one for men to discover their feminine side is for you to give a blow job to two men simultaneously as the two men kiss and make out... in giving blowjobs, don't be timid in giving anal stimulation... the thumb works great in this capacity... lube it a little and work it in and find the g-spot and too, there is every woman's dream of how many cocks can i have at once so try the one up the ass and one up the vagina trick
yes I have had each MMF,FFM, both are kinda cool, everyone involved needs to be in the proper minset before , this is only about sex and everyone needs to check their feelings at the door
or like a line from Oingo Boingo's "Dead Man's Party" .. Everybody's comin', leave your body at the door Leave your body and soul at the door . . .
Dude! You just quoted Danny Elfman! YOU ROCK!!! I wouldn't say you should check your emotions at the door. You will constantly need to be aware of your partner and how they feel. And if you're the third party, it would be wise to make sure that no one is feeling left out or put in an uncomfortable position. IF you're in a loving relationship with someone, you can't deny the emotions. It's impossible. Even in the heat of passion you won't be able to deny it. But as long as you have each other's attention and trust, jealousy and insecurity shouldn't be issues. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to listen to some Oingo Boingo.
I have had one and wouldnt have another. It was just weird and I was the third party. I cant even IMAGINE sharing my partner with someone else if I was in a relationship.
thanks monosphere, I loved Dead Man's Party. as for three way sex .. I think leaving the emotions at the door makes for better pure sex and you can get far more freeky than if you get all mushy cushy making love. when it come to just unattached fucking, (no pun intended here) I like thumping bumping grinding sex with out attachment and "make love" with someone I care about.
Yeah, don't do it with friends/partners, there's way too much a chance of it getting weird for it to be worth it. Maybe save it for when you're pretty sure the relationship is over but no-one's called it yet.
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My wife and I were part of a few mmf threesomes before we were married and they were all with two friends who we knew well. One guy was with us once and the other times was with the guy who I worked with. It was good and a lot of fun for all. Perhaps that is because we all knew and liked each other. There was a bit of guy/guy touching and while I had been wanting to try bi for some time already, I never moved on my friend aside from touching his cock shaft as he fucked my girlfriend ( wife of over 30 years now *smiles* ) After we were married, we stopped having others in our bed and our sex life was good. We read a lot of porn and accumulated a modest XX video library which we still have. About ten years ago, we placed an ad in a local contact magazine and met a wonderful couple with whom we spent many memorable evenings naked. We never did get to a full swap but we were very free and there was lots of same sex contact including oral which I really liked. That relationship ended when the guy from the other couple overstepped some preset boundaries and told some lies so we pulled away from them. The trust was broken and we did get together with one other couple afterwards and again, it was a bisexual party and a lot of fun. My wife and I always communicated after a session with another guy or couple and we'd talk about what happened. We were and still are committed in our relationship and I have always felt that what we share is retty special in todays world. A word of caution - if your mate lets another guy have sex with her just to please you - then you may well have problems. Talk about it - listen to each other's concerns and fears about taking on another sex partner and for goodness sake, listen to your partner. The key word is consesual and swinging and threesomes do NOT work for everyone.
My wife and I have had mmf 3sums. The other guys was a good friend of ours. We always had a good time. We did this more time than I can remember. My wife and our friend like have sex togather. And our friend and I would have guy on guy sex. It was always good. <(^o^)>
