boys i need your help

i could be wrong about your situation, i have been wrong before
but....

I personally have been in a situation almost exactly as this..... the age difference was slightly different by maybe a year or 2.

It ended badly, very, very badly...... i noted the change in the relationship around the time they started to do things sexually........

Also, you could be largely mistaken if you think that nobody will notice the age difference because he "looks" like he's 16...... you don't know everybody he does....

so enjoy the relationship, and don't worry about the sex part yet...... sex is a thing that shouldn't be rushed..... it should be enjoyed

 

i only 20 and there's no way i would ever date a 15 year old. 15 and 22 are only seven years apart, but they're really formative years. maybe i'm being conservative or something, but there's no reason a 22 year old should date a 15 year old... from what i've seen from my friends and my own experiences, the only older guys that date underage chicks are the ones that can't get a girl their own age because they're losers who have nothing going for them. but that's just a generalization...

 

i think you should give it to him, baby [only if he respects you hun]

 

Didn't read all the posts here, but let me just say; he's way to old for you. Forget about him. Seriously.

 

I just want to say something about this. Why is it ok for an older women to date a guy 7 years older, but when it comes to a youger women there is such a problem. I think maybe you should wait to have sex. But seriously saying he is way to old is not a good enough reason.


Tiffany

 

im 19 and i wouldnt even date a 16 year old. alot of guys just want to get laid. hes probably fucking some other young girl right now while your away. if i were you id say just leave him and find someone your age.

 

Do you listen? When your a teenager your mind is completely changing and forming, when you are 15 you think A LOT differently then you do at even 17. I wouldn't know but I guess you are pretty much the same minded at 25-27. Teen years are just a time when your walking blind through the woods.

 

I know, I don't think she should have sex. I know it is a time to be finding yourself. I am entitled to state my opinion.

Tiffany

 

even the part of you asking us when you supposedly have your mind made up makes me think that you're thinking about ending or changing the relationship in the first place......

and i take back what i said earlier....... you don't need to be any where near him sexually wise.......

 

The only advice I can give you is this. Don't sleep with the 22 year old guy. If you give it up to him, he is going to drop you like a hot potato. I am not hating on the older guy/younger girl relationship at all. Every story you read like this, or hear like this ends with the girl getting her heart broken. Some of the stories end with the added bonus of the guy getting thrown in prison for Statutory Rape. A 22 year old cannot legally have sex with a 15 year old in any state in the US. Regardless of how you met him, or who he is friends with, I would be a year's salary that he is trying to fulfill every man's fantasy of deflowering a virgin. Once he breaks your cherry, he will break your heart. Save it for someone you really love. You are only 15. You will have homecoming dates, and proms, and all sorts of young love in your future. Just think how happy that guy you really love will be when you give this gift to him.

 

As long as you don't get caught by your parents. If they find out and get pissed, they could sue him for statutory (sp?) rape cause your under 18. It's up to you. But I prefer being intimate with persons my own age.

 

people my age are so god damn immature and guys my age dont know how to treat a girl. it's all about sex for them. in 2 days it'll be 2 monthes. still aint made out yet. and we talked about the whole sex thing. he was kinda scared to make a move cuz he didnt want me to get mad. i told him he could b/c if i dont think im ready i'll just say no. if he tries after that then he knows he's gonna be in trouble. and until i trust him, im not doing anything with him. making out is prolly the farthest we'll go for a while. if we get that far. lol.
we are spending the whole day together about 5 days after he 2 month mark. i told him if he's lucky somethin might happen. but i made it very clear that there are no promises about that.
and it's not like he'll be takin my virginity. so im not super worried about waiting. but im still going to anyway. cuz if we do it he'll be #3. so im not nervous or scared. but im just trying to make sure he aint just with me for sex and im making sure i can trust him. we have alot of mutual friends. most of them know my relationship history so they keep an eye on him for me to make sure he aint doin nothing he aint supposed to. that way i dont get hurt.
7 years isnt that bad. i know plenty of people who have a bigger age difference than that that were dating young and most of them are married now. as long as he treats me right and respects my limits then i dont see a problem.

 

ok. first of all, i think ur getting too defensive bout this guy. u asked ppl for their opinions and then got upset wen u didnt like it. be thankful, most ppl on here, are jst trying to look out for you, they're not baggin the guy ur with, jst basing their opinions on past experiences and typical guys and girls. sure u 2 might not be typical, but on the other hand, one or both of you may be.

secondly, y ur even thinking bout sex at this point is beyond me. if u havnt even made out yet, y think bout goin all the way?? it jst seems like ur thinking way ahead of urself, id concentrate on making out first i reckon.
maybe thats jst me, i like to take things slow, like im 17, havnt had sex yet, and ive been with my boyfriend for 10months. its been discussed, but neither of us have been ready for it. also i was...well is a lateish bloomer wen it comes to sexual activities. sure i got fingered when i was like 13/14 or sumthing, but it was totally his idea, and i felt pretty much nothing wen he did it, altho comparing him with the guy im with now, he wasnt very good anyways. but yeah i never got worked up, and hadnt even discovered masturbation yet.

so in my opinion sex at 15 is jst way too soon. but thats jst my opinion. also i think the majority of ppl on here are right, why cant he get a girl his own age? why wld he want to be with a girl that much younger than him. sure age is jst a number, wen those numbers are sumthing like 30-37. but wen its 15-22, sorry, it just sounds wrong.

also, sure at ud been goin out for a month, but if ud been away for the middle 2 weeks of that month, barely knowing him in the first place, it barely counts as a month. its more like 2 weeks of getting to know each other.

anyways thats my two cents and its probly worth a lot less than that

also, hi everyone, first post on here

 

Whitney, it isn't about your age, exactly; it's just that your conversations and concerns seem so immature. Now, I have a 21-year-old son, and he'd blow his top if I said that to him, so I'm betting you don't want to hear it, either. Hopefully, you can handle it.

Ideally, you and your boyfriend like each other, have things in common beyond physical attraction, and communicate about the things that come up in your lives. Communicating about SEX should go well beyond "Do you wanna" and "Do you have a condom?" As you go down the road of intimacy -- sitting on a couch together, holding hands, exploring your tender thoughts -- pay attention to the details and follow your instincts.

It should be safe and fun. Don't over-invest in the significance in it, nor overlook the emotional component. If you want to fuck, then just fuck; if you want to be in love, deal with that first. The two aren't mutually exclusive. You can sleep with him just for the fun of it, enjoy sharing the experience, and have that common ground grow into a relationship. That's a very difficult way to go, though.

My gut feeling is that you have expetations beyond what he has, and that makes him nervous. Kudos to him for not taking advantage of the situation.

 

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Maybe it’s just me – but that sounds so incredibility sweet
But I still say WAIT !

 

Hey whitney, just gonna throw in my adivce. Ok, it seems to me like you want sex but don't want it if you're gonna be used. well, not to bad i must say. Anyhow, i consider myself a good lad and will give u the mind of a good lad.

You said he didn't throw hints of wanting sex, it seems to me that he is getting it somewhere else if he doesn't act that way around you. Even a virgin guy will still throw off little joking remarks. And I'd always start to get ideas like many others on here when a guy at that age goes with a girl so young. Good guys at that age think smart and knows the risk of being with a girl so young.

I think you really need a lot of waiting to see what this guy is made of. Guys are top class at playing with girls head and because of that mentality you have and wait and see or just seeing the good side, you might just end up getting hurt bad.

One of my good girl friend (not girlfriend) was 16 and she had a guy 21. when she told me that, i wanted to warn her but didn't. she ended up getting hurt, said the guy cheated on her for 2 of the 3 years they were together.

Anyhow, there's still hope. I've got a good buddy who is 22 and his gf is 17. He hasn't got sex from her although he does joke and tell she he want and he hasn't gone to any other girl for it since being with her. Even i who don't run around with girls still throw jokes to throw their mind in the wrong places.

 

I would wait about 2 years...
But, hey, who am I to stop you?

 

Don't fucking necro post

 

yep...lmao so so sooooooooooooooooooo true. Been there, done that, so has my brother, so has like 5 other dudes I know.