Hello. I am new here. I have a question for the ladies. I love having sex with my girlfriend. Unfortunately she always seems a little embarassed by it. She especially seems embarassed to have an orgasm. I do not want her to feel bad or guilty about having an orgasm. So let me ask you, if your boyfriend said something like "I am going to make you cum now. I don't know if you were planning on cumming or not tonight but you no longer really have a choice. You are going to cum and that is that." would it make you cum harder or feel less guilty about cumming?
What??!! That's a terrible thing to say! You can't force someone to cum if they don't feel comfortable. You act like she's not cumming on purpose. You have no understanding of women and shouldn't be having sex until you learn more about how women operate. PS, there's a love and sex forum here which would probably be more relevant for the topic than this one.
as much as i like control and such, that would be a turn off for me. if i cant cum that day, i just cant cum, and all the clit licking in the world wont get me there. i think perhaps discussion (outside of the bedroom/a sexual situation) about why she feels that way and ways you can help her feel more normal in her sexuality would be much more effective than trying to order her into orgasming...
I think you guys might be taking him a little too seriously. I think he's more or less just trying to make her comfortable -- not literally force her to have an orgasm.
i think if he said it in a less commanding way, i would get the comforting vibe, but the way he put it there souds like "i'm going to make you cum or you gunna die cuz you didn't!"