You are going to cum now.

Hello. I asked this question in the relationship forum but let me ask it here to.
My girlfriend seems embarassed or guilty to have sex. She seems especially embarassed to have an orgasm. I do not want this to be the case. So, let me ask the ladies, if your boyfriend said to you "You are going to cum now. I don't know if you were planning on cumming or not tonight but you no longer have a choice. I am going to make you cum and that is that." would it make you cum harder or feel less guilty?

 

No it would make me feel forced. I'd probably leave. I can't imagine the mindfuck it would probably instill upon someone with guilt issues.

 

I think your tactic is very strange, and would not recommend it.

 

Thanks. I will not do it then.

 

you're welcome, just give her all the love that you got, lover.

 

I will of course do that at all times. Was my reason for suggesting what I did unclear? The reason I was considering it was because if she felt it was not her fault that she was having an orgasm, it was instead my fault, she would have no reason to feel guilty for having one. We discussed this a little in my "Sex Love and Philoshophy" class in college. The instructor was of the opion that many women fantisize about being raped for the same reason. Though it is not something they would ever want to happen in reality if they are being raped it is not their fault they are having sex and therefore they do not need to feel ashamed of doing something society has taught them is dirty.

 

hmmm...

well it's not really either of you guys' "faults" that you orgasm...
it's the by-product of sex, it's one of the many forms of bliss, it's union...

I don't quite understand your situation. just talk to her about it...you guys will figure it out, eh?

 

hahha if you said that to me i would say good luck and hope you have plenty of time!!! you got no chance mate!!!

 

Sorry to here that darkangel. While my girfriend does seem embarassed to cum it is actually very easy to make her cum.

 

Well, I suppose it depends on how you say it.
Some women do get off on being controlled like that.

 

well i only said it as i have never cum so he has nochance at doing it as for the lack of tryingisnt a problem here, its just it never works

 

That is a bummer darkangel. Keep trying though. Best of luck.

 

keep trying with what? my husband? hahahaha only when it suits him and thats once a week if im a really good girl, if he realy wanted this to happen surely he would put more effort into it than that?

 

Screw you husband then. Try by yourself. If you don't cum you'll be no worse off then you are now.

 

tried and still cant

 

Stop hyjacking others threads. Go make your own darkangel.

 

if you dont like it then fuck off! stop stalking me!!!

 

I wont fuck off, if you notice I posted in this thread before you did. If you want to wallow in your misery then my all means start a thread and I'll ignore that one, but this is not your thread. This is a new memebers thread, and he should be able to get the advise he wants without it turning into your pity party.

 

yes i know he asked a question, one that i thought i had answered too , just like you did, its a free world to do and say what we want isnt it, and all i said was that i couldnt even find one from anything simple as that

 

Say what you want in your own thread by all means, but one of the RULES of the HF is that you stay on topic. Your not on topic, your turning it into a subject about you. Start your own thread in Sexual Health and see if some of the new members can help you.